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if i'm having to chase a woman, it means that i'm far more interested than she is, and that's not a situation anyone enjoys being in.
most men are simply in the situation, where if we don't chase women we won't ever get laid.
Exactly. Women who let the guy chase her is not really that intrested in the guy at all. And if it develops into a relationship, it will be pretty unbalanced, the woman basicly wouldn't care less if the guy left while the guy would be willing to do anything to keep her around. Great for the woman shure.... But I doub't any man would like to be in that position.
Exactly. Women who let the guy chase her is not really that intrested in the guy at all. And if it develops into a relationship, it will be pretty unbalanced, the woman basicly wouldn't care less if the guy left while the guy would be willing to do anything to keep her around. Great for the woman shure.... But I doub't any man would like to be in that position.
i wouldn't go that far. in my experience, a woman who has options will just sort of kick back and expect you to invest time and effort to impress them. if you can't cut it, another jester will be along shortly for her entertainment. a woman who has few options will of course be more aggressive and will appreciate your effort much more -- but even she will often go hot, then cold, then hot, then cold, in an effort to play games and maintain control.
i believe from the female perspective, there is a good reason for a limited amount of coyness, being chased, and playing games. as long as we call a spade a spade, then i'm not being critical of that. what i'm being critical of, is this attitude that men should put themselves in a more vulnerable position and that they should like it.
Raena77, if my wife had not asked me out we would never have ended up together. We were "friends" and often did stuff with the same group of friends, then, out of the blue she asked me to her sorority formal. That got my attention and allowed us to get to know each other better, then a little later on, we became much more than just friends.
if i'm having to chase a woman, it means that i'm more interested than she is, i'm investing more time, effort and money than she is -- and that's a situation to be tolerated for someone that i think is special, not a situation that is preferred.
You prefer to date someone you don't think is special?
You prefer to date someone you don't think is special?
what?
the ideal situation, is someone i think is special, who thinks i'm special too. someone who doesn't artificially create conflict and disinterest, so i have to chase their ass all around creation, and deal with nonsensical alternations of acceptance and then rejection to boost their ego.
in my experience, a woman who has options will just sort of kick back and expect you to invest time and effort to impress them. if you can't cut it, another jester will be along shortly for her entertainment.
Close. Women usually have men approaching them. Men who don't approach don't usually get noticed.
Also, I think women take longer to assess men and determine if we are interested in them or not. Men make decisions about women much more quickly, usually based solely on physical attractiveness.
Women look beyond the immediate hotness factor (at least the smart ones do) and we need to know that you're a good guy before we make a decision about you, hence the need for men to pursue women.
It's true that when a man is chasing a woman, he's showing her that he's interested and is likely more interested in her than she is in him. But the pursuit itself can turn a woman's attention and gain her interest. A man who is willing to make a fool of himself for love is a man who is melting a woman's heart.
You prefer to date someone you don't think is special?
Women who want the man to chase her and want to man to put in all the effort and initiate every contact and so on obviously do not think the guy is special. Women who want the guy to chase her and work to get her are obviously not that intrested in the guy anyway.
not all the effort. But the initial contact AT LEAST can be done by the man. If he finds the woman attractive, oh well...
But it's not just the initial contact, it's ALL contact. Do you seriously think women ever for example call the guy they are dating or their SO or plan any dates or activities? give me a break, women expect the man to initiate all calls and forms of contact and if the man doesn't call they'll start to wonder why, instead of just picking up the phone and calling the guy.
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