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No, but do tell how you do it, how much time it takes to manipulate him into doing what he should already do and how your feel about it.
It's the same as training a dog or child. If you follow them around nagging or constantly reminding them then that is the behavior they learn...you nag and then they do.
Some are easier to motivate\train than others.
I would recommend watching the "Tsssst" aka "Dog Whisperer" episode of SouthPark....season 10 or 11ish.
It's the same as training a dog or child. If you follow them around nagging or constantly reminding them then that is the behavior they learn...you nag and then they do.
Some are easier to motivate\train than others.
I would recommend watching the "Tsssst" aka "Dog Whisperer" episode of SouthPark....season 10 or 11ish.
OMG, MG, you're gonna bring the wrath of your fellow male species upon yourself now!
I hate nagging, and my husband hates being nagged. He's pretty good about doing what I ask him to do, although not right away and that's all right. If I do have to remind him, I'll say something like, "Sweetie, please don't forget to--" because I'll assume that he forgot and isn't being passive-aggressive. We both like to have some leisure time on the weekends, so we do some chores to keep up with the housework, but I try to keep the honey-do list to a minimum. There are some things that at his domain, like unclogging the tub drain, but I'll help him with other things so he can finish sooner and not keep putting them off (taking down the Christmas lights, working in the yard, cleaning the garage). And I grease the wheels with thanks and praise and some cold lemonade.
It's the same as training a dog or child. If you follow them around nagging or constantly reminding them then that is the behavior they learn...you nag and then they do.
Some are easier to motivate\train than others.
I would recommend watching the "Tsssst" aka "Dog Whisperer" episode of SouthPark....season 10 or 11ish.
I actually do use "Tssst" it works well with most of my animals and most of the time with my bf. Maybe I misunderstood the statement. Im waiting to hear how to get your SO to do anything you want without nagging.
My wife doesn't nag. I generally do the things she asks of me, in my own time, and that's usually sufficient. If it's really important to be done immediately, we've agreed that she will add the word "now" to the request to clue me in. And the same works for her. It helps that the request is often, "Honey, let's have sex ... now."
My wife doesn't nag. I generally do the things she asks of me, in my own time, and that's usually sufficient. If it's really important to be done immediately, we've agreed that she will add the word "now" to the request to clue me in. And the same works for her. It helps that the request is often, "Honey, let's have sex ... now."
Ive learned in my marriage that the less I nag, I can pretty much get my husband to do anything.
any insights?
You're right, the less a wife nags, the more inclined a man is to do various things for her.
I wish more women would consider just how disrespectful, demeaning, and emasculating it is to be treated like a child, because, that is exactly what a woman is doing when she nags her husband. Treating him like a child who needs to be trained will just **** a guy off if he has any backbone at all and I guarantee that most of us eventually learn that caving in to nagging even one time validates it as a successful behavior modification device and as such, more will ensue.
well I think in the beginning I expected so much of him and it became so overwhelming. I was expecting him to read my mind and then I would get angry. I just stop expecting him to be so perfect. Its still a process but Im learning.
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