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This afternoon, I was at the Bass Pro Shop buying some hooks and bait and the cashier was a pretty little thing. Very nice girl and I thought about asking for her number but she could be way too young. Also, I figured she probably gets hit on a lot by all the rednecks that go through that store
I guess, I am used to meeting people through online dating and I much prefer to meet people in real life but what if I asked for her number and she was 18? At least online, you can search people by age. Do you prefer to meet people online, real life or a combination of both?
I prefer meeting people in real life. I'm old fashioned like that. I like seeing a person, getting a feel of the vibe and just communi-fi-cating our views.
Real life is preferable. Without a doubt. Common interest or a situation where you are yourself and "at your best" is the most productive.
On-line dating has worked for some. My Mom knows a couple who met this way. They were both divorced with kids, with both sets of divorces not amicable. He looks like Sam Elliott and she looks like Lindsay Wagner (both age progressed from their peaks), so they're doing fine ... a matched set.
On-line dating is generally not a surprise. If there's a picture there, some bio stuff, and you talk on the phone, then there's not much mystery. The "wild card" is if the person's IRL vibe works for you. I went ahead with a few dates where everything was pretty much on target, but the conversation indicated their "jockette" factor was higher than what I like, and within a short time, I knew I was sitting there wasting my time ... and theirs.
JOCKETTE? She was too athletic? Too sporty? Not girly enough? She had a stash?
Facial hair? Manly feet? No boobs?
JOCKETTE? She was too athletic? Too sporty? Not girly enough? She had a stash? Facial hair? Manly feet? No boobs?
It's one of those intangibles that can be felt more so than described, just like "je ne sais quoi." Got it? Every time I touch this word, somebody, or several, on here go NUTS.
It's one of those intangibles that can be felt more so than described, just like "je ne sais quoi." Got it? Every time I touch this word, somebody, or several, on here go NUTS.
So, talk to her, that's what conversation is for. Ask her if she's a college student. How she answers will give you an idea of her age. If she's a college student, ask her what her favorite classes are, or what her chosen field is. While you're talking, you're getting to know her personality, finding out if she has a brain or if she's an airhead, or if she has Jerry Springer mouth (it happens), you're picking up on all kinds of info. You might end up deciding you're not interested, depending on how she responds. Just because she's cute doesn't mean you two would get along. IRL is a lot more WYSIWYG than online. Online people can be faking who they are.
So, talk to her, that's what conversation is for. Ask her if she's a college student. How she answers will give you an idea of her age. If she's a college student, ask her what her favorite classes are, or what her chosen field is. While you're talking, you're getting to know her personality, finding out if she has a brain or if she's an airhead, or if she has Jerry Springer mouth (it happens), you're picking up on all kinds of info. You might end up deciding you're not interested, depending on how she responds. Just because she's cute doesn't mean you two would get along. IRL is a lot more WYSIWYG than online. Online people can be faking who they are.
^^^ Verbal and non-verbal cues play a big part IRL. And as someone mentioned earlier in this thread, there's such a thing as too much screening online, and elminating of people who may not be photogenic, or don't have the "right" hobby listed. I've mentioned in other threads that if SO and I were both online, he would have bypassed my profile because it would have listed camping as a hobby. He hates camping, whereas I enjoy it, but if I never did it again, it wouldn't matter.
Meeting him in person, in a group social setting, there was an instant vibe, an undercurrent, in our interactions that you can't get from a photo and bio. Kudos to anyone who can do online dating successfully but it's not for me and I'm glad I didn't have to try it.
Seriously, though, online dating (actual dating websites) is not my favorite. I have done it before, but with no real success. I don't think I will try it again. I'm not someone who likes to date multiple people at the same time, so I really don't need to search a bunch of profiles and talk to numerous people.
I'd rather just meet one person I'm interested in and who's interested in me and get to know them. I hate dating!
I agree with you, I have done online dating a lot and have nothing to show for it. Though I go out in public and meet so many, and made a lot of friends, though have not met anyone yet for a relationship. Though in time in can happen. I just just do what I enjoy and meet so many doing it.
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