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Old 08-17-2010, 04:30 PM
 
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Call me crazy, but the thought of old person sex is just disturbing to me. Maybe it's because I'm young.

Yes, 99% of the population can't get a Playboy model. Why? Because the Playboy models are too good for them. That's the point of Playboy...for men to look at pictures of models that would never give them the time of day in real life.

If Playboy is not a measure of attractiveness, then why is it the most popular porn magazine?
OK, you ask for it. You're crazy. Feel better? Playboy is the measure of attractiveness only to young males who don't know which end is up, or maybe thing with the end that is up. Old people having sex is disturbing to you? Do you have any idea what you sound like to most of the posters on this forum? No, I didn't think so. Go discuss this with your parents.
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Old 08-17-2010, 04:32 PM
 
Location: Denver Metro
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OK, you ask for it. You're crazy. Feel better? Playboy is the measure of attractiveness only to young males who don't know which end is up, or maybe thing with the end that is up. Old people having sex is disturbing to you? Do you have any idea what you sound like to most of the posters on this forum? No, I didn't think so. Go discuss this with your parents.
Honestly, I'm kind of grossed out thinking of MOST people I know having sex so I will give the poster that, but I think this whole idea of old being sleeping with each other out of some sense of desperation or settling is ludicrious.
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Old 08-17-2010, 04:34 PM
 
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I notice in scenarios with significant age gaps between couples, especially younger women with older men, it's automatically assumed the younger person is hotter, without any extra explanation. If a guy who's 38 asks if he should get involved with his son's 24-year-old babysitter (true story), the general response is yes because he's "lucky" to score someone so young (i.e younger=better regardless of what the person actually looks like). I've certainly seen real live scenarios in which the younger woman (or man) wasn't what most people would consider "hot." I guess beauty is in the eye of the beholder....

Why do people assume, that dating/marrying someone significantly younger (of legal age and 10+ years apart) is an automatic plus, regardless of what the parties look like? I might be in the minority, but I don't think having a spouse 15 years your junior makes someone automatically "lucky" the way someone else who's married to a former model (that's their age and still attractive) would be. It just means you found someone that happens to be younger than you are.

Thoughts?
I think the only people that assume that are men, and it's simply because it's an ego boost. Us women are used to that sort of thing. Luckily, not all men think that way - some of them actually think the older women are hotter.
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Old 08-17-2010, 04:42 PM
 
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But if the man is 65, he's not going to be attractive, no matter how attractive he once was during his younger days.

Hahahahahahaha!! Right. I could line 'em up dear, but I'll just go with this one.

http://images.fanpop.com/images/imag...84_200_300.jpg
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Old 08-17-2010, 07:46 PM
 
Location: At the Lake (in Texas)
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Not everyone is attractive when they're young. But if you're not attractive when you're young, you're certainly not going to be attractive when you're old and wrinkly.

I think what people are trying to say is the young person has potential to be attractive, regardless of whether or not they actually are. The 38 year old in your example is young enough that he might still be attractive.

But if the man is 65, he's not going to be attractive, no matter how attractive he once was during his younger days. The 24 year old at least has a chance of being attractive.

And if the young person is attractive, they likely have more time left of being attractive compared to an older attractive person. Example: even if a 40 year old model is aging well, she might look old 10 years later at 50. But if a 24 year old is attractive, she has a high chance of still being attractive 10 years later at 34.

sigh... this response is so ridiculous I can't even read the rest. This is the response of someone totally focused on youth = attractive. Who says a 65 year old man is not going to be attractive? Who says looking 50 is unattractive? Only a young or totally shallow person.
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Old 08-17-2010, 07:46 PM
 
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OK, you ask for it. You're crazy. Feel better? Playboy is the measure of attractiveness only to young males who don't know which end is up, or maybe thing with the end that is up. Old people having sex is disturbing to you? Do you have any idea what you sound like to most of the posters on this forum? No, I didn't think so. Go discuss this with your parents.
Hugh Hefner is certainly not young.
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Old 08-17-2010, 07:48 PM
 
Location: At the Lake (in Texas)
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I notice in scenarios with significant age gaps between couples, especially younger women with older men, it's automatically assumed the younger person is hotter, without any extra explanation. If a guy who's 38 asks if he should get involved with his son's 24-year-old babysitter (true story), the general response is yes because he's "lucky" to score someone so young (i.e younger=better regardless of what the person actually looks like). I've certainly seen real live scenarios in which the younger woman (or man) wasn't what most people would consider "hot." I guess beauty is in the eye of the beholder....

Why do people assume, that dating/marrying someone significantly younger (of legal age and 10+ years apart) is an automatic plus, regardless of what the parties look like? I might be in the minority, but I don't think having a spouse 15 years your junior makes someone automatically "lucky" the way someone else who's married to a former model (that's their age and still attractive) would be. It just means you found someone that happens to be younger than you are.

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My thoughts are that people who assume this are focused solely on a number and terribly in need of the approval of others. You are correct: there is nothing inherently "lucky" about being with a younger person. Age is just a number, and two people who are attracted to each other, enjoy each other and want to share their lives are the lucky ones, those who don't care about what others think and whether anyone else approves or thinks either of them are "attractive" and find a life full of love with each other...that's lucky.
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Old 08-17-2010, 07:53 PM
 
Location: Maryland's 6th District.
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You make a good point. Younger doesn't always mean attractive, but the most attractive people are young. All old people are unattractive.
I was at a bar last Saturday talking to two girls. They they were trying to guess my age and placed me at 26. I could have went with it and maybe gotten laid (maybe), but I told them my real age and they responded with "gross" and walked away.

But here is the thing. You may think that all old people are unattractive, but guess what-the joke is on you. One day you will be old, too. HA!
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Old 08-17-2010, 09:30 PM
 
Location: At the Lake (in Texas)
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When 60 year olds have sex, I don't think it has to do with attraction. I think they're just taking what they can get. Just because two 60 year olds settle for each other doesn't mean they find the other attractive.
That does it...you are either a kid or an idiot.
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Old 08-18-2010, 10:17 AM
 
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There's a demand for young people when it comes to showing beauty or style. Just look around. Everybody will age. Still, you have all these products out there making gazillions of money for all these women, and some men, that don't want to age and keep looking young, why? Because they know younger = prettier, regardless of beauty being in the eye of the beholder.

I guess we live in a shallow world.
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