How many gold-digging women are there out there? (Chinese, pregnant, divorces)

[cpg35223]

Originally Posted by moonshadow

Just because some do doesn't mean that all do. I could say, based on my experience that all men or a lot of men are lying, cheating, mysoginists but I know that's not right because I see evidence of great men every day. Some of them are my friends, some of them are married to my friends and some of them are my relatives. My only advice to you is, stop worrying about who is a gold digger and who isn't, enjoy your life, meet as many people as you can and see how that goes. Probably wouldn't hurt to examine yourself and how you are presenting that these kinds of women keep finding you. It's what I have to do each and every time my magnet goes off.

You totally missed my point. I simply said that these types of woman are more common than people would admit. Tell me exactly what I said that was incorrect.

Note that I didn't say they were the majority, merely more numerous than some women would admit. Most guys have encountered at least one or two of them in their dating life, just like most women have encountered at least one pig in their single days. Thanks!

[moonshadow]

Originally Posted by cpg35223

You totally missed my point. I simply said that these types of woman are more common than people would admit. Tell me exactly what I said that was incorrect.

Note that I didn't say they were the majority, merely more numerous than some women would admit. Most guys have encountered at least one or two of them in their dating life, just like most women have encountered at least one pig in their single days. Thanks!

Where did I say you were incorrect?

You just seem to be focused on it is all.

[Huckleberry3911948]

not enough. i can't hardly get any interest going.
how rich do you have to be to get some attention.
its all so unfair. i have however found taking cruises and
complaining of property management problems & chest pains
does help.

[mrstewart]

I am a woman and I have seen it first hand. My uncle was engaged to his future wife and at our first meeting she said " My money is my money and his money is my money too." And she meant it. He found out the hard way after she left him and took a good chunk of the money with her!

[The Man in SATX]

I really dont want to add coal to the fire.. but there are more money hungry women out there then we would all like to admit. I have seen it first hand a couple of times myself.. I asked this gal one time what she would like to get from a relationship from a man.. and she said "his money".

Of course, me being the goof ball that I am.. I said.. come on seriously and she said. I am being serious as heck. I wont marry a man that cant afford me...

This coming from a woman who is getting ready to lose her house due to not being able to pay her bills.. and now living with her mother.. talk about money hungry! I was apalled!

[robertpolyglot]

We seem to be analyzing the women on this thread, and that's what the thread was about. However, what the hell is in the mind of a man who will date/marry/provide for a beautiful woman who has 3 marriages under her belt?

I had a co-worker when I had the MISfortune to work in the disgusting state of Nevada...a true haven for white trash. The multiple divorcees seem to gravitate there, as Nevada is very nonjudgmental of social depravation. Her mother was on her fifth marriage. I think she had taken a chunk from each of the previous, though none of them were professionals in the true sense of the word, so it wasn't THAT much. However, what is so 'effed up about the guy marrying her for time 4 or time 5 that he would even go there with such a track record?

[robertpolyglot]

Originally Posted by The Man in SATX

I really dont want to add coal to the fire.. but there are more money hungry women out there then we would all like to admit.

I think I've said it earlier in the thread. Yes, people ought to marry sensibly, that is, there is nothing wrong with wanting to be in a REASONABLY financially comfortable situation. It's sort of standard for college-educated people.

However, when it's an EXCESSIVE preoccupation, and it is with women more so than men, then it's a PSYCHOLOGICAL deficiency of sorts, just like some talk shows I saw in the early 90s indicated.

Don't you think it's because a woman can't provide a good standard of living for herself? I mean, what's a 2.4 in psychology or urban planning from UNLV or UMass or FSU going to fetch her, unless she's a "go getter" realtor or embarks ardently on some other task? If they don't want to embark on anything, then gold-digging is the option. Hence, it is a self-esteem issue...the inability to achieve. Wouldn't you agree?

[Huckleberry3911948]

Originally Posted by robertpolyglot

We seem to be analyzing the women on this thread, and that's what the thread was about. However, what the hell is in the mind of a man who will date/marry/provide for a beautiful woman who has 3 marriages under her belt?

I had a co-worker when I had the MISfortune to work in the disgusting state of Nevada...a true haven for white trash. The multiple divorcees seem to gravitate there, as Nevada is very nonjudgmental of social depravation. Her mother was on her fifth marriage. I think she had taken a chunk from each of the previous, though none of them were professionals in the true sense of the word, so it wasn't THAT much. However, what is so 'effed up about the guy marrying her for time 4 or time 5 that he would even go there with such a track record?

good post -- it's a message for the marlborough man
stop giving away your power

[robertpolyglot]

Originally Posted by cpg35223

Note that I didn't say they were the majority, merely more numerous than some women would admit. Most guys have encountered at least one or two of them in their dating life, just like most women have encountered at least one pig in their single days. Thanks!

Equal opportunity, rightfully so! And accurate.

I don't want to tilt this toward divorce, but gold-digging often ends up there, I would presume.

I think that marriages fail, if sliced as a pie, for the following reasons...my observation:
25% men - can't keep it in their pants, know they can get it (money, looks, or plain old "je ne sais quoi") so they don't curb this problem
25% women - beautiful, empty and look for the externalities in life such that marital partner eventually tires
25% either - mismanagement of money and resulting trouble
25% women - they NAG and their too-long "honey do" list annoys men, so they walk, or cheat until they walk

So, 25 % is outright attributable to materialism and a sliver of the last 25% (NAGGING) could be attributatble to materialism, in part, as well.

It's simplistic, but I think the numbers might come close.

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by cpg35223

Well, here are two different women I dated. Both HONEST TO GOD stories:

1) On the first date, one woman (who had practically tackled me at the furniture store where she worked when I was buying a bedroom suite) asked me how much I made. I told her none of her cotton-picking business. Then the date goes very well after that, so I chalked it up to an aberration.

We had a third date scheduled. I call up to tell her I'll be late picking her up that evening due to a client commitment. She tells me, "That's fine. I've made a decision about our relationship, by the way. I've decided to sleep with you. But there's other man that I'm going to date seriously, because he looks like he'll make partner at his law firm." Yes. She really said that. I just hung up the phone on her.

2) Another woman I dated a few times told me outright, "The man I marry will have to make enough money so that I can stay at home and get a manicure and a facial every week." I really thought she was joking. Turns out she wasn't.

So, before we hear a lot of pious denial from women on this subject, remember that there are plenty of women who think this way. And they're more numerous than people would probably admit.

This is unbelievable! So, on top of being greedy, they're also stupid! Why am I surprised... I've seen some episodes of The Bachelor... If these women are half for real, it's disgusting.