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Old 08-25-2010, 04:33 PM
 
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The way I look at it there are three needs when it comes to your romantic life:

1. Emotional support
2. Intellectual stimulation
3. Sex

Most people get (or desire to get) all three things from the same person and be in an exclusive and committed relationship. But, I am able to have a different girl for each need and it suits me just fine. I actually have one girl who is presently giving me #1 and #2. I have another who is giving me #2 only. Lastly, I have a third who is giving me #3.

Is this strange?
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Old 08-25-2010, 04:44 PM
 
Location: Hawaii
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Well, I don't think it's strange at all. I am married and I don't rely on my husband for all three, all the time. I often turn to friends and family for emotional and intellectual support.
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Old 08-25-2010, 04:44 PM
 
Location: Canada
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Yes it is strange. You should move to Utah. Just kidding Do these women know about each other?

So you've got:


#1 the nurturer
#2 the Phd
#3 the wh***

LMAO!Again I'm just kidding. I really think you need to focus on finding ONE woman that will meet all those needs.
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Old 08-25-2010, 04:45 PM
 
Location: Canada
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Well, I don't think it's strange at all. I am married and I don't rely on my husband for all three, all the time. I often turn to friends and family for emotional and intellectual support.

He's talking about romantic life.
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Old 08-25-2010, 04:49 PM
 
Location: Hawaii
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But he's only having sex with one of them, so the other two are not romantic relationships, they are just friendships, basically.

Or am I being clueless?
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Old 08-25-2010, 04:50 PM
 
Location: Canada
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But he's only having sex with one of them, so the other two are not romantic relationships, they are just friendships, basically.

Or am I being clueless?
No. Maybe He could clarify further whether or not these are women he is dating.
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Old 08-25-2010, 04:52 PM
 
Location: Texas
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The way I look at it there are three needs when it comes to your romantic life:

1. Emotional support
2. Intellectual stimulation
3. Sex

Most people get (or desire to get) all three things from the same person and be in an exclusive and committed relationship. But, I am able to have a different girl for each need and it suits me just fine. I actually have one girl who is presently giving me #1 and #2. I have another who is giving me #2 only. Lastly, I have a third who is giving me #3.

Is this strange?
No. It's not strange. I've long maintained that finding someone who can give you all three reliably and at the level you want it is extraordinarily rare. People usually compromise on one of them and make the best of it.
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Old 08-25-2010, 05:49 PM
 
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But he's only having sex with one of them, so the other two are not romantic relationships, they are just friendships, basically.

Or am I being clueless?
Well, I have had sex with all three girls. The third girl is my main sex buddy now, but I occasionally have sex with the first girl as well. Also, the first girl and I used to date and have an incredibly close friendship. To be honest it is more than a normal friendship.

But, it is possible to get #1 and #2 from purely friend sources probably for some people.
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Old 08-25-2010, 06:13 PM
 
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The way I look at it there are three needs when it comes to your romantic life:

1. Emotional support
2. Intellectual stimulation
3. Sex

Most people get (or desire to get) all three things from the same person and be in an exclusive and committed relationship. But, I am able to have a different girl for each need and it suits me just fine. I actually have one girl who is presently giving me #1 and #2. I have another who is giving me #2 only. Lastly, I have a third who is giving me #3.

Is this strange?
I guess you could call them 'specialists.'
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Old 08-25-2010, 06:26 PM
 
Location: Back in the gym...Yo Adrian!
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Nothing strange about it at all. Pick from the buffet until the main course comes along.
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