Singles who are "in love" with their pet(s)... good "relationship material" (or not)? (lover, family)
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I have a single girlfriend who talks about her two small dogs constantly. Her life revolves around them. She is always emailing me photos of them too.
I really wonder sometimes if the dogs interfere with her dating life. It seems that any dog loving man would already have a dog or two of his own, right? So joining dog families would be a big commitment.
If my dog doesn't like you, chances are eventually I'll find out what an awful person you are. He has great judgement
Yes, some people like myself really enjoy their pets, and treat them more like children. If my boyfriend doesn't like that, he can hit the road=)
Is that because you use your pet's reaction to look for an excuse to judge them awful? Whenever I hear about someone's pet's allegedly unfailing instinct about SOs, that's what comes to mind.
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Originally Posted by boodhabunny
I have a single girlfriend who talks about her two small dogs constantly. Her life revolves around them. She is always emailing me photos of them too.
I really wonder sometimes if the dogs interfere with her dating life. It seems that any dog loving man would already have a dog or two of his own, right? So joining dog families would be a big commitment.
Not necessarily. As John Cusack said in Must Love Dogs, "You said 'must love dogs', not 'must own dog'. I do love dogs." I love both dogs and cats, but I live in a place that doesn't allow pets.
As for your friend, it's a red flag if I'm playing second fiddle to Fido. They're pets, folks, not furry people. A little perspective, please.
i thought it was "cute", for a little while... that is until i started to see it in a different light.
a lot of women treat their dogs/cats as some freak replacement for a husband and/or child. i find this unsettling, but this doesn't necessarily make them "not relationship material."
I love dogs, but if some woman is pushing her dog around in a baby stroller when going for walks, it's over.
My sister-in-laws best friend has a chihuahua, and she's definitely of the "looooove your pet" variety. She stayed with the dog in a pet-friendly hotel, and while she was out of the room for a few hours the dog proceeded to scratch up the back of the door and poop all over the floor. When we suggested that maybe the dog should be in a crate, the woman looked as if she'd been slapped and yelled "would *you* like to be in a cage?" That's the difference. It's not that she shouldn't love her dog, it's that she doesn't recognize that it's a dog, not a person.
My childhood was filled with violence, abuse, and terror. "No wire hangers" would be an understatement. I'm a grown adult and I go nuts over dogs.
I said 'often'. It's not an universal rule. I'm talking about people who put animals at the same levels as human just because they're cute, while deliberatly ignoring how the meat they're eating is treated.
When you measure worth based on cutiness, you have the emotional integrity of a child and don't know much about life.
I love my dog. Anyone who knows me knows that is true. I will take my dog over any human, anyday. As dogwalker said, I took her on as my responsibility and I will own up to that until it is her time to go.
That said, I do not dress her up. I do not let her sit at the dinner table with me. I do not feed her people food. She does not sleep in the bed (she prefers to sleep in the living room).
Anyone who will turn over a pet because it suddenly becomes inconvenient for them has a black soul as far as I'm concerned. They have no sense of commitment or responsibility, and certainly no sense of loyalty - definitely low on the totem pole of being.
I would marry you in an instant if I weren't already married . My dogs have slept in bed from time to time when they were younger. As they grew older they preferred other places. I don't dress my dogs up either. But they are a lifetime commitment.
In "The Truth About Cats & Dogs", Janeane Garofalo once said, "there's loving your pets, and then there's loooooving your pets."
How do you feel about dating folks in the second category... does the type of relationship they have with their pet ever "get in the way" and take priority over their human relationships?
Or as one website puts it, "Are Single Women (or Men) With Dogs, The New 'Spinsters With Cats'... or something like that?"
It's been a while since I've seen that one, but I don't think she was referring to people who dote on or anthropomorphize pets. I think she was referring to "the love that dare not bark its name".
And no, I wouldn't date such people, under either interpretation. Because one is creepy with an option on sad, and the other is just....!!!
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