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Originally Posted by misswee
Not really in this area.... I am kind of modest here compared to most in the way I dress... but according to some on here I was showing cleavage which is some crime I guess.... I guess turtle necks are the only thing you can wear????
Seriously, usually everyone is telling me to stop covering up so much..  |
You know, there's a right and a wrong way to go about coping with clothing and one's body.
I'm often reminded of two things when I hear women discuss men and our penchant for looking. And as I already stated my views on the variety of "looks" and or comments, let me clarify: Looks will range from appreciative and brief all the way to leering and the seeming inability to look any higher than your neckline.
The two things of which I'm reminded:
1. Years ago Howie Mandel was doing a routine (back during the days of the 'fro) and some guy in the audience made a crack and Howie returned his heckle pretty good-naturedly, even asking the guy to stand up and make his comment again.
The guy refused and Howie asked why. The guy said "I don't want to draw attention." (Seriously, as though being even a mild heckler didn't draw the attention to him?!?"
Howie, on the other hand, looked stunned, saying incredulously "You've got your shirt unbuttoned down to your d!** and a honking huge gold medallion hanging out, and you
don't want to draw attention?!?"
2. I'm always reminded of the poser-type women at the gym. There are male posers too, never doubt that -- but the Femme posers are aggressive. They wear the tightest, most revealing clothing they can, they're actually wearing
makeup to the gym and when men look these gals complain about them. If anyone dares point out that they're a Kleenex away from being dressed in their birthday suit, they begin to flaunt their "rights" to dress however they want.
These women are USUALLY found on the hip adductor machine, so they're stretched out as much as possible and their legs are being spread widely; it's the most attention-attracting machine on the entire planet. You can always tell when it's a Poser versus a Regular: The Regular is slightly hunched forward, eyes on the muscles being worked, OR leaned back with eyes focused on the ceiling, concentrating on the
feel of the muscles. The Posers are doing slow, casual sets and looking around to see who's checking them out.
One look around at the gym regulars quickly reveals baggy clothing which allows for freedom of movement. There ARE regulars who wear the skin-suits, but they don't complain about being looked at, they like it.
Years ago a discussion of sexual aggression between genders and inappropriate behaviour came up and one woman complained to me about men "being blatant about wanting sex" -- her response was (and I am NOT making this up)
"I can do naked back-flips off the hood of your car if I want to, it doesn't mean I want to have sex with you!"
I'd call that a hideously UNREALISTIC sense of what one's "rights" are when it comes to appropriate dress and behaviour. For all that I'm against gratuitous violence, such people could do with a good, solid SLAP upside the head until the birdies tweet a better message.
If you've got nice boobs and you're happy about it, then feel free to dress sexy; just remember that NOT EVERY GUY out there is a nice guy, and the NOT-nice ones are going to comment, leer and bother you. It's like the Lottery -- you can't win if you don't play, and wanting to share your "assets" with men who appreciate you for MORE than your jubblies means they're also being shared inadvertently with men who care ONLY about them. And that is NOT the fault of the nice guys.
If you've got large boobs and you're not happy about them, then go under the knife, by all means. It's up to you; but it's also up to you, if you keep them, to learn to work WITH them -- realistically. Period.
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