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I remember another poster on city data that said whenever his parents tell him he should have kids, he says "if you want me to have kids so badly, why don't you pay for them and raise them"
I like this. Others have suggested saying things like this. I have never thought about this kind of stuff as a comeback, I thought it might sound a little rude, but now I actually can’t wait to be asked again! lol
The hard part for me is being looked at like a monster. The look of “what the hell is wrong with her that she doesn’t want children”?
I like this. Others have suggested saying things like this. I have never thought about this kind of stuff as a comeback, I thought it might sound a little rude, but now I actually can’t wait to be asked again! lol
The hard part for me is being looked at like a monster. The look of “what the hell is wrong with her that she doesn’t want children”?
Give them extreme eye contact back. Don't even blink.
I mean, a few questions here and there I can handle, it's the complete inundation by strangers, clients, friends alike that's throwing me for a loop. It's like they all secretly got together and conspired to ask me this on different days. I know they didn't, but people who don't know each other asking you the same exact question is really kind of bizarre, isn't it?
I admit that is rather bizarre. I do think asking about someone's kids is common conversation, but in social settings--not really at work. It sounds like you get asked about having kids more than I do, and there isn't anything obvious about me that indicates I'm a mom. It's not like I have a diaper bag on my shoulder or whatever.
Just talking off the top of my head here ... I wonder if there's some kind of pheromone or other subconscious sign that does indicate motherhood. This client who questioned you, what that in person?
People in my family used to ask me ALL the time since I've been dating my boyfriend for 5 years...I told them I don't wish to have children at this time or possibly ever. They finally stopped asking!
And I mean EVERYONE. Friends, co-workers, family, strangers, even the guy who changed my oil today asked me why I wasn't married and didn't have kids.
It's like people don't think you're "normal" or something if you're a female and don't have kids by a certain age.
Is anyone else going through this?
What do you say to people who ask you that?
Those questions are quite common for both men and women once they reach a certain age.
At least be glad it's not like in the past where a woman was a spinster if not married by age 23. Back then though guys got to be confirmed bachelors but now it's assumed they're probably gay if they aren't married before a certain age.
All you have to do is say "Because I don't want to and my reasons for that are my own".
Another good answer would be to tell them you want to own 40 or 50 cats instead of marrying and having kids.
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I remember thinking he was really red. And what was up with my hair??
