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Old 09-20-2010, 09:21 PM
 
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Why does it bother so many people about others asking questions? In my opinion, someone asking me if I am going to have more children is no more invasive than someone asking me when I am going to get a new car...not a big deal at all...there are MANY other things that are more offensive that people think they have the right to ask all the time!
It just gets old and irritating after a while. What makes it worse is when the same person asks it repeatedly. The worse was when some incredibly vicious and rude old biddy told me I should divorce my wife and go get a "young chicky" to have babies. My wife is in her 50's and I'm in my 40's. How disgusting of that old bat.
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Old 09-20-2010, 09:26 PM
 
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Why does it bother so many people about others asking questions?
Itís fine if youíre asked once, but if youíre asked once a WEEK, and you have been at your place of work for 6 years giving the same answer every week and somehow they just wont accept it, thatís a different thing.
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Old 09-20-2010, 09:28 PM
 
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While it's a personal question (nosy, inappropriate), having kids is a normal part of life--normal in that most people do it.
I donít believe there is a ďnormalĒ anymore.
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Old 09-20-2010, 09:34 PM
 
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Itís fine if youíre asked once, but if youíre asked once a WEEK, and you have been at your place of work for 6 years giving the same answer every week and somehow they just wont accept it, thatís a different thing.
Clearly if the same person is asking the same question over and over again something is wrong with THEM...perhaps OCD or something...but that still is not your issue...stupid questions do not deserve an answer....Silence is golden
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Old 09-20-2010, 09:42 PM
 
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Itís fine if youíre asked once, but if youíre asked once a WEEK, and you have been at your place of work for 6 years giving the same answer every week and somehow they just wont accept it, thatís a different thing.
I would just ask "are you okay? I'm not sure if you realize but you are asking the same question every week? Has anyone else mentioned this to you, because you realize that alzheimer's can start manifesting earlier than most people imagine?".
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Old 09-20-2010, 09:44 PM
 
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I would just ask "are you okay? I'm not sure if you realize but you are asking the same question every week? Has anyone else mentioned this to you, because you realize that alzheimer's can start manifesting earlier than most people imagine?".
Exactly...if someone keeps asking the same question they are either 1) stupid 2) mentally ill 3) rude 4) have comprehension problems or 5) isn't really that interested and doesn't listen to the answer week after week...none of which are anything to internalize.
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Old 09-20-2010, 09:50 PM
 
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You make it sound so easy!

When are you having kids?

Iím not.

Why not?

Because I donít want children.

Why not?

For a lot of reasons.

Like?

Just a lot of reasons.

Do you hate children? *looked at like Iím a monster*

No, itís not that I hateÖ

Then why wouldnít you want to have them?

Look, thereís the financial burden, not having the mortherly instinctÖ

Itíll come to you.

No it wonít.

It has to. Youíre a woman and all women want children.


People just CANNOT accept it. The people I know anyway!!!
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Old 09-20-2010, 09:54 PM
 
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It is so easy! Just come up with a universal response to the question...

Say "That is not something I am interested in and that decision was made in the privacy of my own home and I don't plan on justifying my decision to anyone else anymore...how 'bout those Red Sox?"

Of course you would need to find your own response but just because someone asks a question does not mean you have to answer it...take back the control they seem to have by asking the questions...


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Originally Posted by *VaNiLlaGoRrilLa* View Post
You make it sound so easy!

When are you having kids?

Iím not.

Why not?

Because I donít want children.

Why not?

For a lot of reasons.

Like?

Just a lot of reasons.

Do you hate children? *looked at like Iím a monster*

No, itís not that I hateÖ

Then why wouldnít you want to have them?

Look, thereís the financial burden, not having the mortherly instinctÖ

Itíll come to you.

No it wonít.

It has to. Youíre a woman and all women want children.


People just CANNOT accept it. The people I know anyway!!!
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Old 09-20-2010, 09:55 PM
 
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Itís fine if youíre asked once, but if youíre asked once a WEEK, and you have been at your place of work for 6 years giving the same answer every week and somehow they just wont accept it, thatís a different thing.
That used to happen to me at work. I finally said one time, "I hear what goes on in your home every time your kids call you. That sealed the deal for me."
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Old 09-20-2010, 09:57 PM
 
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Ask them "did you buy stock in my genetic line? Because other than the possibility of financial gain I have no comprehension is your abnormal interest in my reproducing"

I can't even comprehend being given the third degree like that.
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