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So last time I was here I told you guys I relocated to San Diego and was just doing the solo thing. Everything was going well until I started developing feelings towards someone at work (I know I know). Well got rejected by him today despite all the mixed signals he had given me. I decided to go out tonight to a party to meet people in the area. Ended up talking to a nice girl and exchanged numbers. Didn't meet really anyone else. Parties tend to make me freeze up because I get nervous in large groups. Anyway, on the way back home I started crying hysterically in the car thinking about my ex boyfriend who I haven't seen in maybe 8 months.
Now I am super stressed at work and still not settled at home here. My only friends are at work and my weekends are never long enough.
Should I go to therapy? I don't even know where to start with sharing all my problems
I wouldn't hurt at all. Moving to a new place and starting a life isn't easy and often causes stress. You don't need a psychiatrist, just someone to talk about your frustrations out loud with so look for a therapist in your area, sometimes you can look up things about them on the internet as far as their areas of expertise, experience, education, philosophy, and maybe even see a photo. I went to one a couple years ago when I was going through a stressful time and I had never gone before. I was nervous and to be honest the first 2 meetings all I could do was cry...but even THAT made me feel better because of how the therapist responded to me.Then I could actually TALK about all the things I'd been bottling up. You will probably feel much better even if you only go a couple of times.
Therapy can be helpful if you really need it, but I don't think you do.
Everyone needs a good cry now and then. It doesn't mean you need therapy. You've been under strain and needed a release. I'd take the money you'd spend on a therapist and fly to Paris, or buy some fabulous shoes. Make friends by getting out and learning something new. Take a Zumba class or a dance class after work and you'll have new friends before you know it.
Life is meant to be enjoyed. I don't think anyone has said from their deathbed "I wish I'd spent more time and money in therapy".
I went to therapy after my divorce, and then again after my most recent break-up. It helped.
I realized a lot about myself. I also realized I wasn't totally to blame either. It should help you realize your good and bad points, and gain insight into how other people work think and feel.
So last time I was here I told you guys I relocated to San Diego and was just doing the solo thing. Everything was going well until I started developing feelings towards someone at work (I know I know). Well got rejected by him today despite all the mixed signals he had given me. I decided to go out tonight to a party to meet people in the area. Ended up talking to a nice girl and exchanged numbers. Didn't meet really anyone else. Parties tend to make me freeze up because I get nervous in large groups. Anyway, on the way back home I started crying hysterically in the car thinking about my ex boyfriend who I haven't seen in maybe 8 months.
Now I am super stressed at work and still not settled at home here. My only friends are at work and my weekends are never long enough.
Should I go to therapy? I don't even know where to start with sharing all my problems
Decide what it is that you want to accomplish by going and how it will improve the quality of your life, thats pretty much what a therapist will ask and yes, it does work. If you're still going 10years later, somethings wrong and it may not be you.
Location: I never said I was perfect so no refunds here sorry!
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IMO, allot of people who work develop friends at work or more like acquaintances that they associate with and for those people that remains that way as they are to busy to get out and have a night life.
Sometimes the responsibility of working to live burdens everyone at one point or another.
Heck you are normal, perhaps a little emotional but hey....you'll be OK just take it a day at a time
It might not hurt. But I would offer that you should go to other places, too. What are your interests outside of work? Do you have a hobby? Do you have avocations that you'd like to cultivate? Because when you do those things, you encounter people with similar interests, people with whom you'll have a natural affinity.
Hey, it's tough to move to an entirely new place and start over with a new set of friends. It's just a step by step process.
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