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What it means is when you are crazy in love with someone you overlook the faults that everyone else around you sees in them. Also the love you feel for that person makes them seem more attractive physically than they actually are. That's my take on it
I think it can be interpreted in two ways, equally applicable but one negative, one positive.
On the negative side, "love" really means that period during which we're impassioned, bodies awash with hormones that make us eager for someone's company. The result of this is that we willingly ignore things which, given time for the inflamed nature of our desires to settle down a bit, start to matter.
Basically, "Dude, she treats you like crap!"
"I don't care; I'm getting laid and it's awesome!"
But given time:
"Dude, she treats you like crap!"
"Yeah, I know. I'm really starting to wonder whether it's worth it.
But then there's the positive aspect of the phrase Love is blind. This one has the advantage of time and is more aptly illustrated by person who is with another despite something which others would find a deal-breaker, and it's a conscious choice, perhaps even something they don't see because they see something else which others aren't privileged to see.
I've told the story before in here but in short, way back in fifth grade there was a girl in my class who was just... butt... UGLY. She was also mean as a snake; but while forced to work together for two months on a class project I discovered she was mostly just reacting to others' reaction to her physical appearance. In fact she was gentle and sweet, quite intelligent and creative. By the time the project was finished I had a huge crush on her and honestly could not figure out why I'd thought she was ugly before -- really and truly could not see it.
we're hard-wired for people we "love" to affect our brain chemistry, especially in the earlier stages of a relationship. it is a bit like taking drugs.
my guess is that its a trait we've developed over time, something that promotes stronger families, which were more likely to reproduce and survive. the humans who didn't feel "love" died off or failed to reproduce at the same rate.
I'm in that situation now....Don't know how much longer I'll be in a relationship.....
I've been with same guy for a looong time. 7 years. And we have two kids. And we met when we were really young, and we were both obsessed with each other. But then he did a lot of messed up things and I kept making excuses..."He was young, he didn't know any better." or "It's because of how he was raised." And he would apologize, play nice and things would get better for awhile. But then he'd do something messed up again. And it's just this never ending cycle. Still a never ending cycle.....I'm so in love with our good times, I put up with the bad. And let me tell you....the bad outweighs the good by a lot.
Now,he doesn't do as many direct, hurtful things because he's wised up. But I'm wising up too and realizing that this will probably never get better.
Love is blind. When you're young and in love, you think that this one person is going to be the person you're with forever. You watch eachother grow up and become adults and well....the boy I fell in love with isn't the man I know now.
If relationships have stages, the "love is blind" stage happens early on. It can happen very soon, when you are first in the process of connecting with each other, or sometimes a little later, during the connecting process which can take longer with others, depending on circumstances. It's basically a stage where the heart overrules the mind and logical thinking. It's a time when we see what we want to see in the other, and deny or disregard any negatives in the other. It's a time when we can rationalize things very easily to support our feelings and emotions. I'm not saying it's good or bad, just that it is what it is. The love is blind stage does not last forever though. Over time, as the reality of our partner's strengths and weaknesses become more apparent to us, and we live with them, we gain a better insight and that reality begins to sink in........ for the better or worse. JMO.
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