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I don't care if he does it. It is preferable to him bugging me for sex when I don't want to be bothered.
I know what that's like. Toward the end of my marriage, I caught myself thinking, "Gawd, him having an affair would be preferable."
Tell you what, though: I am so glad I ended that, because staying with someone I didn't want sex with was hurting me just as much as, if not more than, it was hurting him. I knew that the moment I was with someone who got the gears grinding again. In a bad marriage or relationship, women tend to think that part of themselves has just died. Nope, the relationship smothers it. Get a good relationship, and whoa, it's a whole different world. Depriving myself of awesome sex for the rest of my life would have been a shame.
Had an interesting discussion with the wife about this tonight. Our views on this greatly differ.
How would you feel if your significant other "helped themselves" or "Took care of themselves" (if you know what I mean)? The wife says its normal and that she would not be upset or worried about it. Me, I would immediately think that I am doing something wrong or not right in the love making arena if this happened. I would be upping the weight and reps on my squat workouts, eating more broccoli and doing whatever it takes to better perform to please my s.o. as I would take it that I am not doing my job adequately.
One of her friends (who is SMOKING HOT and super sweet by the way) says that her husband cheated on her because he was tired of having to "help himself". Now they are getting divorced.
I agree with Lao. I don't believe in taking care of myself in a disjointed fashion. I actually do once in a while and it's always thinking about the missus. Nothing with porn or other women or anything else.
Reading thru this thread I think some people have incredible amount of time jerking off at vids in the middle of the night. They should be really living some uneventful life.
I am dead tired by 9pm and when I hop into bed, I sleep like a log for 7 to 8 hours. Then I am up at 5 and am off to the gym, and then, work, that is how the drill goes. As they always say, idle people do all kinds of things. Kemosabes!
as long as other aspects of the relationship are okay I wouldn't worry about it at all. Sometimes people (guys)do it to relieve tension. I don't want to have sex with my husband to relieve tension,so help yourself!
I'm sure this happens a lot. How could it not ?
Men are mostly hard wired to go every night. Lets face it, we are always in the mood
But really Women are not built that way, so somethings got to give right ?
I know its embarrassing and no guy in there right mind would want to get caught with his pants down. But really is it that big a deal ?
Really we aren't? You would be amazed at how much sex we really want when it's GOOD . When the sex is just meh....then we have headaches a lot. And girls tend to masturbate more then guys think....we just don't tell you that is all.
My wife and I have sex together almost every day, and often 2 or even 3 times a day. Yet, there are times when masturbation is the choice, especially if the other is sleeping or sick or away. Usually, if the sleeping spouse wakes up, they help the other reach a satisfactory conclusion.
I recently learned about the laundry method for sex: Big loads are done together, and small loads are sometimes done by hand.
Had an interesting discussion with the wife about this tonight. Our views on this greatly differ.
How would you feel if your significant other "helped themselves" or "Took care of themselves" (if you know what I mean)? The wife says its normal and that she would not be upset or worried about it. Me, I would immediately think that I am doing something wrong or not right in the love making arena if this happened. I would be upping the weight and reps on my squat workouts, eating more broccoli and doing whatever it takes to better perform to please my s.o. as I would take it that I am not doing my job adequately.
One of her friends (who is SMOKING HOT and super sweet by the way) says that her husband cheated on her because he was tired of having to "help himself". Now they are getting divorced.
Masturbation has little to do with you....people just sometimes want a release outside of their mate. Masturbation is a fantasy land....we can do stuff in our mind we would never dream about in real life. And sometimes touching yourself....for us girls as least makes us feel very sexy. Everyone masturbates....and while most people tend to slow down in a relationship sometimes people want more after. And since many guys forget to get us off....we often to it for just that reason .
I guess I must be something of an anomaly; the more sexually active I am, the more I masturbate. If I am with someone in an extremely satisfying sexual relationship, I will do it more, not less. What happens is, I'll find myself replaying the sex in my head the next day, then I will want to get off while thinking about it.
Perhaps I am not the only one who reacts this way, so people shouldn't be automatically offended when their partner masturbates despite having a happy & fulfilling sex life.
This is not an anomaly, it's normal and expected actually.
Yeah see, this is the part where I head to the restroom at work for a little bit of what I like to call Me Time.
My husband and I work together and are practically with each other all the time. I personally will always prefer We Time to Me Time. For me, the Me Time is just to take the edge off if the We Time is not likely to happen in the immediate future or to start without him, knowing he's going to be joining in.
Really we aren't? You would be amazed at how much sex we really want when it's GOOD . When the sex is just meh....then we have headaches a lot. And girls tend to masturbate more then guys think....we just don't tell you that is all.
Yup!! Right on sister!!
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. When the sex is just meh....then we have headaches a lot. And girls tend to masturbate more then guys think....we just don't tell you that is all.
