Whats wrong with sex on the first date if......

[TKramar]

Originally Posted by AllAboutEve

No, way of figuring out? That's why there's praternity tests. And that is bedsides the point that I was trying to make. When I referred to a 'moral dilemma', I was not referring to pregnancy I was referring to respecting others. Everyone (men and women) is faced with this decision. I clearly clarified that point but you have still managed to avoid addressing it.

And how does she get the paternity tests for guys whose names she didn't bother to get? Or who gave her fake names, and she didn't value herself enough to make sure they were who they said they were before sleeping with them?

You shouldn't have sex with anyone until you've really gotten a chance to know them--that's why I never have sex with someone I've just met...it takes WEEKS before I'm comfortable with the idea.

But, you know, women take more risks in having sex than men do, and that's just a basic biological fact.

[ClearNight]

Originally Posted by TKramar

And how does she get the paternity tests for guys whose names she didn't bother to get? Or who gave her fake names, and she didn't value herself enough to make sure they were who they said they were before sleeping with them?

You shouldn't have sex with anyone until you've really gotten a chance to know them--that's why I never have sex with someone I've just met...it takes WEEKS before I'm comfortable with the idea.

But, you know, women take more risks in having sex than men do, and that's just a basic biological fact.

Thats why our poor ancestors, the poor fella's had to buy those C-Belts
when going off to the hunt or trade for a few short weeks.

Thats all it took back then.....now its just a date..??

The girls are sensitive about this though. I don't think they fancy
being tagged for an out of control need, for acceptance.

Maybe its our fault...maybe theres too much pressure to measure up to all the beauties on TV. Maybe the approval they need on the first date and whatnot has been drowning with all the pressure.

I just don't think its wise to bring the Cbelt back....what does society do with this problem what can it do ? . Must be the sexy babes on TV, thats gotta go. You know that the makeup is applied to simulate a women at the crazy time of the month. Whats next !

[ClearNight]

Hey where did everybody go. I certainly hope if it is a first date , we behaved ourselves.

[netwit]

[quote=AllAboutEve;16249190]You can know someone for YEARS and then finally go on a first date with them. Why is this hard for you to conceptualize? I have been saying the same thing for the past several posts, and yet you don't seem to be getting it, so I'm just going to stop here. I can tell you either a) don't read my posts or b) don't understand a single word I am saying.[/quote]

My vote is for a - and b.

[mysticaltyger]

Originally Posted by dave nz

Read on here not too long ago, that many people here would never have sex on the first date. One of the main reasons stated was risk of STD's.

What if though the person you are seeing on the first date is a friend of a friend and you know there are no health risks. In this situation I don't see the problem. If you are both feeling it and the passion is high and you use protection to reduce pregnancy chance.....why else should you hold back?

1. Birth control does fail, even if you use it correctly, so that has to be factored in. Sometimes people with STD's don't even know they have them since they can be asymptomatic for a long time.

2. IMO, when you have sex with someone you don't know well, there is a pretty good chance that you won't be with that person long term....which means that you're probably going to have a fair number of sexual partners. I think the more partners you have, the more you increase your risk of being emotionally numb, or to use sex as a kind of drug--a way of lifting your mood when bored/depressed/or as a way to fill some kind of void in your life. You are much less likely to use sex to fill a void if you don't allow yourself to have sex the first time you meet someone.

I had a lot of sex partners and did my share of hooking up. It can become addictive. Sex on the first date can intensify emotions, increasing the risk you'll fall in love with someone who only wants sex, even if you don't intend to...and this can be very hurtful. (Ask me know I know!).

3. As another poster said, there's a tendency to treat the person you just had sex with as a throw-away. Sex is like anything else. If it's easy to get, you tend not to value it or the person you're having sex with.

I've had sex with people the first time I've met them. I've paid a high price for it emotionally, but that only became clear to me years later.