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Old 10-12-2010, 08:08 AM
 
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My sister is single and in love with two different men. She is trying to figure out which one she loves the best and wants to put all her energy towards one relationship. But so far she is conflicted. She just can not chose which man she wants. Both want her. It is like the TV Show Bachorette, except this is real life.

If or when you were single were you ever in love with two or more people in a romantic way? If so, tell us more!
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Old 10-12-2010, 08:55 AM
 
Location: NYC
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Absolutely not. I am emotionally incapable of being in romantic love with more than one person at a time. A lot of people claim that they are in love multiple people; I am fine with taking their word for it though I know it is absolutely not something that would happen in my life.
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Old 10-12-2010, 09:57 AM
 
Location: Reno, NV
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Yes, I was, and so we entered into a polyamorous relationship after all of us meeting to discuss it. It worked wonderfully until one of the women met someone she wanted to focus on exclusively, at which time we concluded the arrangement. We're all still very good friends - no drama, no jealousy, no regrets. This is certainly not for everyone, though! There is plenty of potential for problems if not handled very carefully and honestly.
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Old 10-12-2010, 10:06 AM
 
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Yes, but you have to choose. You must take one and forsake all others. To try otherwise guarantees heartbreaking disaster.
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Old 10-12-2010, 10:13 AM
 
Location: Clayton, MO
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Yes, when I was 18. I was in love my high school boyfriend who was sweet, cute, tender, but also fun, outgoing, and the life of the party. The kind of guy everyone loves, the all American boy.
But while we were dating I met another guy who was quieter, intellectual, dark humor, and he and I would talk for hours through the night. We connected in a mental level and I eventually fell in love with him also.
I was very conflicted.
I made the mistake of breaking up with my high school love, and it did not work out with Mr. deep thoughts.
I hope your sister makes the right choice. It's hard when you are in middle of all those emotions.
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Old 10-12-2010, 10:58 AM
 
Location: NYC
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Yes, I was, and so we entered into a polyamorous relationship after all of us meeting to discuss it. It worked wonderfully until one of the women met someone she wanted to focus on exclusively, at which time we concluded the arrangement. We're all still very good friends - no drama, no jealousy, no regrets. This is certainly not for everyone, though! There is plenty of potential for problems if not handled very carefully and honestly.
Were you all in love with each other?
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Old 10-13-2010, 04:30 AM
 
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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No. I've been attracted to multiple people at once, while single, but never in love with anyone [even when NOT single].
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Old 10-13-2010, 05:47 AM
 
Location: Incognito
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I am in love with three people. Me, myself and I.
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Old 10-13-2010, 07:12 AM
 
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Yes the men she was close to loved her and she loved them. I am surprised so few people will admit to being in love with two different people at once in a romantic way.

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Were you all in love with each other?
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Old 10-13-2010, 08:49 PM
 
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Yes. One was my age and available, interested. The other was way too old for me and interested. It sucks, lol.
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