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Old 10-13-2010, 03:39 PM
 
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And before you ask what sprung or whipped means.


Sprung=you're in love where you start acting different from who you normally are. Example: you buy your girlfriend 200 dollars worth of clothes when you wouldn't do that for yourself or anybody else because you're sprung.

Whipped=deeply in love where you basically lose touch with your friends, family and even yourself. She or he becomes your life. Example: You spend time with your girl everyday and rarely say anything to your friends in the last 3 months just to say what's up.

Being that I've never been in a relationship before and witnessing my comrades being held hostage by their girlfriends from the power of strong vajayjay and affection they weren't used to getting and seeing how they became different during and after their experiences. I don't want to fall a victim. I guess you can say I'm scared of being in love but hey, if it's going to make me do something I normally wouldn't do then... I might as well be a manwhore and call it a day.
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Old 10-13-2010, 03:44 PM
 
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Easy. Set boundaries from the get-go. I've never had a bf that I've wanted to hang out with everyday of the week. So pick your days to do your own thing (hobby, family, friends etc) and tell her from the beginning that these days are set aside for other people/things.
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Old 10-13-2010, 03:52 PM
 
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Easy. Set boundaries from the get-go. I've never had a bf that I've wanted to hang out with everyday of the week. So pick your days to do your own thing (hobby, family, friends etc) and tell her from the beginning that these days are set aside for other people/things.
What if she objects to this?
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Old 10-13-2010, 03:54 PM
 
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What if she objects to this?
Then she's probably got some sort of insecurity issue or she's possessive. Get rid of her.
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Old 10-13-2010, 04:00 PM
 
Location: Say-Town! Texas
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well it sounds like he's at that age where all the girls want to know where their man is 24/7

sounds like he's about 17 -25.

its really difficult when the testosterone kicks in, makes you do stuff and then you wake up and go "i did WHAT last night?!" (spend your tax return on your girlfriends new prada purse)
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Old 10-13-2010, 04:14 PM
 
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well it sounds like he's at that age where all the girls want to know where their man is 24/7

sounds like he's about 17 -25.

its really difficult when the testosterone kicks in, makes you do stuff and then you wake up and go "i did WHAT last night?!" (spend your tax return on your girlfriends new prada purse)
Yep, I'm 24. I just don't want to be committed like that. I'm still young.
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Old 10-13-2010, 04:16 PM
 
Location: Hawaii
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This only happens to weak people who's girlfriends are b*tches.
Pick a girlfriend who has no desire to control or change you, if you see it happening a little, stand your ground and your girlfriend will either respect you for it or bounce. Either way, problem solved.
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Old 10-13-2010, 06:16 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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These men probably pick insecure women. Not all or even most women will demand such behavioral changes. Although, people "change" on their own accord when in love, and it does not have to result in foolishness. Sometimes love does move a person to a selfless act to express the feeling, and that seems positive to me; nothing to fear.

Oh, another thing is, relationships do require some adjustment in your life. You have to make time for the other person & make some effort to see them & meet their needs, & they should do the same for you. That does not mean sacrificing your identity, it's just logical.
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Old 10-13-2010, 06:40 PM
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The trick is to find someone who thinks like you do. That's why being friends with someone first helps weed out those who you know just aren't on the same wavelength.

Another poster mentioned boundaries, which I agree is important to establish. Start off as you mean to continue. It may sound harsh and unyielding, but it's so easy to fall into the trap of uber-togetherness.
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Old 10-14-2010, 05:49 PM
 
Location: Hawaii
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These men probably pick insecure women. Not all or even most women will demand such behavioral changes. Although, people "change" on their own accord when in love, and it does not have to result in foolishness. Sometimes love does move a person to a selfless act to express the feeling, and that seems positive to me; nothing to fear.

Oh, another thing is, relationships do require some adjustment in your life. You have to make time for the other person & make some effort to see them & meet their needs, & they should do the same for you. That does not mean sacrificing your identity, it's just logical.
True. Good post.
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