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Well a lot of steaks let themselves go to hamburger, so I can see why some people go out for a fresh steak. I read some stupid article about one of the best things about a long term relationship is that you can loosen up on your grooming and make-up etc. I thought that was really dumb because:
1. if you are not that person, don't fake it to catch a man
2. if you start doing that, don't whine about how your husband is not attracted to the "real you" anymore because you were starting off as a fake to trap him
I think that a lot of humans are just not designed for monogamous relationships. Society programs us that it is the right way.
I think part of what made their marriage such a long term success is that they had a healthy balance of work which required long stretches of time apart, financial freedom to do as they pleased, and most importantly a genuine mutual respect for one another.
Of course we don't know if either of them had some discreet side meat that they were able to keep hidden either from one another or the media. Paul Newman's career was during a time prior to paparazzi, Twitter, camera phones, and this constant obsession with celebrities in the 24 hour tabloid news. I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt, but still, we don't really know just how exclusive their marriage was.
What do you think it takes for a person to continue to view their SO as "Steak" as opposed to "Hamburgers", over the course of a long relationship? Or is that just wishful thinking?
I took that quote of Newman's to mean that he's seen what else is out there and thinks is wife is much better. Sometimes, I don't think people really appreciate what they have at home until they see the rest of the world. I had a friend who was married to a man that she described as pretty boring. They eventually divorced and when she started dating again and saw just what kind of men were out there, that's when she realized just how lucky she was to be married to her ex. So to answer your question at to what it takes to continue viewing your SO as "steak", I'd say it's paying attention to who else is out there and what your life would be like if you were back on the singles scene again.
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