Have you learnt much from your time on this relationship forum? (kids, call)

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by PassTheChocolate

The unacceptable is becoming more and more acceptable.

That's for sure!

[meh_whatever]

I'm actually alarmed at the bitterness and the black and white thinking. Maybe I'm just too much of a hippie or something. If I walked around feeling bitter all the time, it would totally harsh my otherwise mellow existence. Or something like that.

[NY Annie]

Originally Posted by meh_whatever

I'm actually alarmed at the bitterness and the black and white thinking. Maybe I'm just too much of a hippie or something. If I walked around feeling bitter all the time, it would totally harsh my otherwise mellow existence. Or something like that.

There is no such thing as too much of a hippie. We hippies need to stage a come-back. I truly think the world needs more love, more seeking, more .... something.

There's a lot about the 60s and early 70s that wasn't so great - tuning out with drugs in particular; but so much of what we did was positive - learning/education was a much stronger drive than what I see today - not so much for what it got in career terms, but for knowledge' sake; morality defined as standing up for what one believes in - willing to accept the consequences for one's actions as in the sit-ins/marches/protests. Banding together in a positive way for change - not just for the sake of change but with improvement in mind - a way to go forward, not just marching in place.

That's what I see is missing from this me-me generation - nothing outward looking, all collecting for the core of me.

[headhunter18]

Originally Posted by NY Annie

There is no such thing as too much of a hippie. We hippies need to stage a come-back. I truly think the world needs more love, more seeking, more .... something.

There's a lot about the 60s and early 70s that wasn't so great - tuning out with drugs in particular; but so much of what we did was positive - learning/education was a much stronger drive than what I see today - not so much for what it got in career terms, but for knowledge' sake; morality defined as standing up for what one believes in - willing to accept the consequences for one's actions as in the sit-ins/marches/protests. Banding together in a positive way for change - not just for the sake of change but with improvement in mind - a way to go forward, not just marching in place.

That's what I see is missing from this me-me generation - nothing outward looking, all collecting for the core of me.

Yeah well, for that to happen, stop people from using FACEBOOK, as it's all about "me me me me", discourage people from playing video games and ask them to go out and meet people and talk to them, discourage people from listening to songs which encourage them to be criminals and do drugs and stuff, get back people to READING BOOKS which has almost gone extinct now, discourage people from thinking that their idea of a good Friday evening is playing beer pong(hate that game) and getting wasted. Make young people go out, hike, see and feel the beauty of nature instead of texting on the phone, make them work in the fields, grow their own food, make them get a feel of accomplishing things on their own instead of buying things with a swipe of a credit card.

Every progress of humanity thus far has been accomplished with the ability of people to look deep within themselves, and ponder about it, without the ability for people to think deep which is discouraged with the advent of cheap sources of quick entertainment, the ability of young people to think deeply has been compromised, and that's one of the things facing a decline with the modern way of life.

[fleetiebelle]

Originally Posted by meh_whatever

I'm actually alarmed at the bitterness and the black and white thinking. Maybe I'm just too much of a hippie or something. If I walked around feeling bitter all the time, it would totally harsh my otherwise mellow existence. Or something like that.

This conversation has got me thinking: the majority of the bitterness is coming mostly from young guys, right? I wonder how much of this relationship dysfunction stems from the fact that they're really the first generation to be exposed to hours and hours and hours of internet porn long before they ever actually saw a real woman naked. I'm not anti-porn, but could it be a factor in their unrealistic relationship expectations? They've been looking at this exaggerated model of what women and sex are like, and real life can't measure up.

[le roi]

i've learned that most women don't have a clue what they are attracted to, and if they do know, they rarely admit it.

i've learned that there is a HUGE segment of males who are emotionally weak, angry, and socially awkward.

i've learned that people are typically not looking for the truth, they are looking for support.

[headhunter18]

Originally Posted by le roi

i've learned that most women don't have a clue what they are attracted to, and if they do know, they rarely admit it.

i've learned that there is a HUGE segment of males who are emotionally weak, angry, and socially awkward.

i've learned that people are typically not looking for the truth, they are looking for support.

Perfecto

[fleetiebelle]

i've learned that most women don't have a clue what they are attracted to, and if they do know, they rarely admit it.

On the other (or maybe it's the same) hand, I've learned that there are plenty of guys who will paternalistically argue that they know more about what women want than women do. If one more guy says that as a woman I'm by default attracted to rich assholes or married men, I think my eyes will roll so far back into my head that I'll be able to read my own brain. But they're always right, because there are blogs on the internet that say so.

[FrmlyBklyn]

Originally Posted by fleetiebelle

On the other (or maybe it's the same) hand, I've learned that there are plenty of guys who will paternalistically argue that they know more about what women want than women do. If one more guy says that as a woman I'm by default attracted to rich assholes or married men, I think my eyes will roll so far back into my head that I'll be able to read my own brain.

Don't forget the pretty boy and bad boy.

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by le roi

i've learned that most women don't have a clue what they are attracted to, and if they do know, they rarely admit it.

I resemble that and strongly disagree on both counts!