Question: Young guys vs Older women (love, single, attracted, younger)

[ItWasWritten]

I am sure that there are a lot of young fellas like me that are attracted to older women. Lately I have noticed I have seen so many fine looking older women. I have never tried to approach them even though inside im ding to because I feel like I would come of as disrespectful because of the age difference. What would be your honest reaction if a younger guy approaches you? By younger I mean the guy is in his early 20s and the women in her early to mid 30s. Would MOST women feel like their a rapist or weird about age difference and would they think its too inappropriate?

[JerZ]

I don't know. Significantly younger, you mean? As in, more than 10 years? I think I'd have to get to know the guy first, or I'd be thinking, "mini-horndog."

But if the guy took the time to know me and still wanted to get to know me, well, better, then why not?

[Sprawling_Homeowner]

I'd venture to say women at that age range may see a young man like yourself as eye candy and nothing more. There may be cases when the two personalities click so well that the age gap is not as big a factor.

But what then? If she's 30 to 35 and you're 22, and suddenly she begins to desire marriage, what are you going to do? Settle down that young?

Furthermore, they'll be miles ahead of you in terms of life experience, relationships, maturity, finances, career, etc. Of course, there are women (and men) in the 30-35 age range who are yet to get their stuff aligned. But by and large, they'll already have left behind much of what is new and novel to you.

If I were 22 again, I'd do little other than observe and admire from afar. Stick to women in your own age range - the time will come when you will be too old for women of your age, and you'll HAVE to target women in the 30 to 35 range.

[Whyte Byrd]

My 26 year old son is engaged to a 40 year old. They appear to be one of those rare couples who compliment each other so well you don't see an age difference. They're so much alike and so cute together. Since the 2nd week they met they've not been apart. It's been a year so far. I hope it lasts. My daughter and I both think they're great for each other.

[*Sixy*]

It would probably depend on what you are seeking to get out of it. You are attracted to older women but will you have anything in common with them? Are you looking for a relationship or just something casual?

I'm in my mid-30's and if I were single and someone in their younger 20's showed interest I'd be flattered at first but I doubt I'd persue it. I wouldn't be offended but honestly I'd probably assume you are trying to put a notch in the bedpost by conquering a "cougar".

But, there is someone for everyone and maybe there is an older lady out there that would be interested. Never know until you try.

[Sprawling_Homeowner]

Originally Posted by justthe6ofus

It would probably depend on what you are seeking to get out of it. You are attracted to older women but will you have anything in common with them? Are you looking for a relationship or just something casual?

I'm in my mid-30's and if I were single and someone in their younger 20's showed interest I'd be flattered at first but I doubt I'd persue it. I wouldn't be offended but honestly I'd probably assume you are trying to put a notch in the bedpost by conquering a "cougar".

But, there is someone for everyone and maybe there is an older lady out there that would be interested. Never know until you try.

^This.

Women in their early 20s are less experienced than women who are 10-15 years older - some of them lack the "jerk" radar that experience builds.

Women do not want to be seen as just another "lay," regardless of how dashing and handsome the young pursuer is.

[ItWasWritten]

Originally Posted by justthe6ofus

It would probably depend on what you are seeking to get out of it. You are attracted to older women but will you have anything in common with them? Are you looking for a relationship or just something casual?

I'm in my mid-30's and if I were single and someone in their younger 20's showed interest I'd be flattered at first but I doubt I'd persue it. I wouldn't be offended but honestly I'd probably assume you are trying to put a notch in the bedpost by conquering a "cougar".

But, there is someone for everyone and maybe there is an older lady out there that would be interested. Never know until you try.

Honestly I would not expect anything serious but im not the type of guy who will try and jump right into bed with a girl. I have only been with 2 girls and I got to know them first before anything happened and its not like I did it to brag its just attraction causes the pot to stir. So for the most part would u conclude that most older women would rather avoid the situation?

[*Sixy*]

Originally Posted by ItWasWritten

Honestly I would not expect anything serious but im not the type of guy who will try and jump right into bed with a girl. I have only been with 2 girls and I got to know them first before anything happened and its not like I did it to brag its just attraction causes the pot to stir. So for the most part would u conclude that most older women would rather avoid the situation?

I can't speak for all older women but I would avoid it.

Like I said though, different strokes for different folks and I'm sure there are some older women that would love the opportunity to be with a younger man.

[ncsualum2004]

I've had a lot of younger men ask me out lately. While it is flattering I have turned most down.

Most are just too casual and don't seem to have much depth. I remember the last younger man to ask me out all he could talk about was either football or what bars he liked to drink at.

However, it's amazing what working full time can do. One guy (24) who asked me was still in grad school. He still acts very much like your typical undergrad. Another guy that asked me that I did say yes to is 25 and has worked for 2 years. It is like night and day the differences in their maturity and their conversation skills.

[yankeegirl313]

Perhaps the "older woman" can show the younger guy a thing or two huh?