Why is it that bad boys are sooo addicting? (girlfriends, girl, attracted)

[seeniorita]

Originally Posted by sierraAZ

I'd hope so! I'm getting a complex with all those perfect men other people have. Heck, I'm sure even Mr. LovesMountains ought to have SOME flaw!

Don't worry chica...no such thing! No man is perfect, no woman is perfect. We just find someone we can put up with (flaws and all) and not commit any felonies in the meantime.

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by sierraAZ

I'd hope so! I'm getting a complex with all those perfect men other people have. Heck, I'm sure even Mr. LovesMountains ought to have SOME flaw!

Oh trust me, he's human

[ChessieMom]

Originally Posted by sierraAZ

I'd hope so! I'm getting a complex with all those perfect men other people have. Heck, I'm sure even Mr. LovesMountains ought to have SOME flaw!

Perfect? Hell I don't even know what that would be. I just know that there has to be enough good there to make the "less than good" stuff not be an issue.

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by lovesMountains

Oh trust me, he's human

Oh, good! *wipes brows* I almost felt as if I could touch his little antennas.

[babigyrl5]

Originally Posted by betamanlet

Are you sure that anyone "deserves" anything? It would be nice to have a decent car, it would be nice to have someone who doesn't break your heart, but does anyone actually deserve it? Deserve = entitled.

If thats the case, wouldnt everyone just settle then? If I put in 100% in to a relationship, I deserve someone who will also put in 100%. I think of entitlement as earning it.

[Whyte Byrd]

Originally Posted by e.ortega

So as I previously posted me and my boyfriend of 3 1/2yrs broke up after finding out a lot of stuff that wasn't appropriate for someone in a relationship to be doing. But now is the dilemma.............

I had a heartbreak over 15yrs ago with my daughter's father and this one recently has done more to me then my daughter's father ever did but I still have strong feelings for him? and even hope that he will grow up and change (even though my heart tells me something different) he is sooooo addicting. I think I actually love him more then my previous ex and am afraid that sooner or later will fall right back into his trap now why is that the bad boys always turn girls on? and we can't get enough of them? is it all the games they play? mind games how I call them?

Why is it that he did me wrong 100 times worse and I feel I love him more then the other? I just don't get it..........

Not this girl. I can't run fast enough from them. No interest at all.

[betamanlet]

Originally Posted by babigyrl5

If thats the case, wouldnt everyone just settle then? If I put in 100% in to a relationship, I deserve someone who will also put in 100%. I think of entitlement as earning it.

But being entitled to perfection (something that doesn't exist) will only lead to dissapointment, right?

I'm saying these views can only lead to being dissapointed if you feel entitlements to things, then they aren't what you thought you were entitled to. Nobody is perfect.

[SD4020]

Originally Posted by ChessieMom

Oy vey.

Yiddish word for holy ****

The bad boy syndrome... Like a bad car crash, you can't look away.

different from the man who has a backbone and will stand up for what he believes and rarely backs down.

[JerZ]

Originally Posted by JetJockey

The way I think about it, is that you want the romantic notion of 'taming' a bad boy. You want a player/bad boy etc. to fall on his knees and proclaim his undying love to you, stop his 'player ways' and settle down. Then, you feel better about yourself because you were so much better than those 'other girls' since you have him permanently and they don't.

I wrote a Sociology paper on this topic when I was a Senior in High School

This is EXACTLY what I was thinking but I could never, ever have said it so well.

[lionking]

oh...this topic again. Women can't even agree on defining what a "bad boy" is.