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10-28-2010, 07:24 PM
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Is it just me or does the insult "well you are the most common denominator" reduce people to a number and depersonalize them of human characteristics and qualities that would help in understanding interpersonal and social issues ..... I've always disliked that term and would like to discuss how I feel it should not be applied to human relations because we are not numbers and cannot be placed into formulas like a common denominator is in a math problem....
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10-28-2010, 07:28 PM
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Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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It's one of the shortest distances--a bee-line, if you will--from obliviousness to a small dose of reality.
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10-28-2010, 07:29 PM
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no it has nothing to do with numbers. it's when you constantly complain about everyone else and find fault with everyone. they cant ALL be wrong can they? so you are the common denominator--meaning maybe it's YOU! it's not a math quiz
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10-28-2010, 08:21 PM
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Actually. Yes. Groups of people have been known to be wrong. I'm pretty sure we all know that. Ha ha.......just look at political groups. They are always railing against each other. But sometimes an individual will complain against a group who are actively engaged in groupthink. It happens. It doesn't mean that anybody is 100% wrong. It sounds like an easy cop out to say it's all 100% about the individual complaining. 
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Originally Posted by findinghope
no it has nothing to do with numbers. it's when you constantly complain about everyone else and find fault with everyone. they cant ALL be wrong can they? so you are the common denominator--meaning maybe it's YOU! it's not a math quiz
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10-28-2010, 08:34 PM
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no it has nothing to do with numbers. it's when you constantly complain about everyone else and find fault with everyone. they cant ALL be wrong can they? so you are the common denominator--meaning maybe it's YOU! it's not a math quiz
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I don't mean this in reference to Artsy's thread in particular, but I am a firm believer in this saying:
It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.
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10-28-2010, 08:35 PM
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That's great Sierra.
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Originally Posted by sierraAZ
I don't mean this in reference to Artsy's thread in particular, but I am a firm believer in this saying:
It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.
Jiddu Krishnamurti
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10-28-2010, 09:04 PM
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Location: Up above the world so high!
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Is it just me or does the insult "well you are the most common denominator" reduce people to a number and depersonalize them of human characteristics and qualities that would help in understanding interpersonal and social issues ..... I've always disliked that term and would like to discuss how I feel it should not be applied to human relations because we are not numbers and cannot be placed into formulas like a common denominator is in a math problem....
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I don't see how use of that phrase "reduces people to a number". It has nothing to do with numbers 
It's just a thought provoking way of saying to someone who either can't get along with anyone else, or someone who continually finds themselves in bad relationships, that hey, YOU are the one thing all these people have in common.
The truth is, when/if a person is having that much difficulty in relationships the best thing to do is to look in the mirror. And saying so is not an insult, it's just good advice  |
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10-28-2010, 09:22 PM
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Okay, fine.
You are the common person in all of your relationships. 
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10-28-2010, 09:42 PM
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Is it just me or
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It's just you.
It's another way of saying that the only person you can control is yourself, so if you're not getting the results you want in life, look within for the reason. |
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10-28-2010, 09:48 PM
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I find the Dr. Phil mentality to be really insulting to people who are having real problems with other people. I hope you guys do not use that Dr. Phil mentality in real life. Sure, it works for Phil on television because everything is scripted and directed to fit for television. I'm just saying that I have never used that insulting mentality with any of my friends or family. If they have had persistent problems with people I've never blamed or shamed them for it. Problems are problems. They are real. Everybody has them. IMHO.
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