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Old 10-30-2010, 01:24 AM
 
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Brief background: I'm 24, she's 23. We have been casually dating (not exclusively) for a month, and recently she told me (drunk and crying) that she has feelings for me.

Meanwhile, she won't sleep with me or do anything sexual (always some lame excuse), but yet she sleeps with guys she doesn't care about. We have made out numerous times, but nothing more. She also has daddy issues (daddy never gave her approval, etc). She is very pretty, and is the type of girl that gets hit on all the time by guys.

What's my next move? I don't want to just sleep with her and then leave her, I actually like this girl. But it's not fair to me that she's intimate with other guys and not me. I feel that she is playing games, and I have been advised (by guys AND girls) next time to act like a complete ***hole to her. Basically show her little to no affection, and she will sleep with me to validate herself. Last time we were out, I ignored her for a while and she was all over me. I don't like playing games, but girls like this are why "nice guys" turn into ***holes.
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Old 10-30-2010, 01:27 AM
 
Location: Southwest France
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You shouldn't join in on the madness. She is a fragile, damaged human being. Move on.
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Old 10-30-2010, 01:48 AM
 
Location: Southern California
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What's my next move?

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Put her back on the shelf and walk away.
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Old 10-30-2010, 04:48 AM
 
Location: Sunny Florida
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She's damaged, move on. You deserve better.
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Old 10-30-2010, 05:00 AM
 
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It's likely she is one of those people who cannot experience sexual attraction for those that they actually like and respect. It's not uncommon in women who were raped or sexually abused as children. I would say it's not a good idea to get romantically involved with someone who is damaged to the point of having sexual problems.
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Old 10-30-2010, 05:00 AM
 
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Be a man, not an ***hole, and stop thinking with the wrong head. You don't use people simply because they allow themselves to be used, and your ego is bruised by rejection.
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Old 10-30-2010, 05:26 AM
 
Location: Canada
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Brief background: I'm 24, she's 23. We have been casually dating (not exclusively) for a month, and recently she told me (drunk and crying) that she has feelings for me.


How romantic She told you about these feelings while drunk. Yeah you can totally believe she has feelings for you
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Old 10-30-2010, 06:10 AM
 
Location: Tennessee
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If she`s screwing other guys, but yet the two of you are dating, I wouldn`t be interested in "when is it going to be my turn?" Eeek!
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Old 10-30-2010, 06:14 AM
 
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If she`s screwing other guys, but yet the two of you are dating, I wouldn`t be interested in "when is it going to be my turn?" Eeek!
I'd walk away from that train wreck.
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Old 10-30-2010, 06:24 AM
 
Location: Reno, NV
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She's just not that into you. You're in the friend zone. You're just a "nice" guy to her. You're doomed. Move on.
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