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Unless you have some firsthand knowledge of something he should know--ie., she's a call girl, she's cheating on him, she's wanted in five states for felonies, I'd keep it to myself.
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You can share your concerns once but if you push it, you may push your friend right out of your life. Say it once if you must and let it go. It's his life. His mistakes to make. His lessons to learn.
I would give my opinion only if asked, and I'd state my case only one time. (unless my opinion was based on facts such as what coolhand mentions, in which case I'd state my case once unsolicited.)
If the friendship is important you butt out unless you have concrete evidence of something he should know. Otherwise, tell your friend how you feel and don't be surprised if he picks the girlfriend over the friendship.
My best friend from college married someone that just gave me the creeps nad instant distrust when I met him. One of those instinctual responses about his body language. I never said a word. Three children later she is a single mother because he had an affair and took her for everything during the marriage and in the divorce. There is nothing I could have done or said to help avert the situation.
What I'm doing is not going to the wedding.. but wishing her luck, she's gonna need it. And she knows why. I just shut up about it now. But I did tell her that I hope I never have to tell her "I told you so."
You can share your concerns once but if you push it, you may push your friend right out of your life. Say it once if you must and let it go. It's his life. His mistakes to make. His lessons to learn.
I agree because in the end the guy is the one dating the girl, and if he or she is smiten by this person no matter how much advice you give them they won't listen, and in fact you will cause problems in your friendship/
You should have said something well before it came time for them to get married
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