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I don't know... Judging by my own experience, I didn't finish very well. On the other hand, nobody's yet to describe me as being "nice"... Pretty confusing, isn't it...?! I guess I have a bitc*hy facade and a damn "nice" core! Not a good combination!
I'm in the same boat is you. All guys see up front it my "craziness", not my caring and faithful sides!
Nope but some might then start wondering what's it like living your life to the fullest..... sort of on the wild side and not compromising for the meantime (you don't have to worry about hurting people's feelings nor taking things too serious but keep the ''whatever'' attitude going on as long as you want to).
As far as ending last I think not. All it takes for us to attract a man (unless you're disfigured, very ugly or have serious weight problems) is dress up good, know how to walk, talk and just be all sweet with a low, smooth voice. I think even a tomboy can get her man if she's nice and finds something girly about her.
Charm talking would be our strategy and it hardly ever falls. We can even act shy and it's no big deal to most men.
However if the man was extremely shy to the point of stuttering at every single word then it would be a problem.
Now you got me totally confused! What's the difference between these two or are you just being sarcastic?
Sorry, I couldn't get on earlier...
We all know there are nice guys in the world. However, in these threads and since the 80's, Nice Guy (note the capitalization) has become that sort of detrimental title denoting Mr. Clingy... Mr. Pathetic, the World's Doormat... the (dare I say it?) beta so often spoken of in these threads.
He's that guy who feels he's walked on and taken advantage of -- and often he IS but it's because he's kind of a wuss. YES, he's nice... sometimes, but as has been frequently pointed out as well in these threads, his "niceness" just as often has an agenda. He's hoping to win her over by holding her hair for her while she pukes... he's the shoulder on which she cries about her "mean, rotten boyfriend" but he's never willing to tell her to wake the hell up and smell the coffee, he only commiserates with her because he's hoping she'll miraculously see him for the great and wonderful TRUE "Nice Guy" he is and choose him.
That's the Nice Guy dream -- that someday she'll notice how wonderful he is and finally take her damned clothes off and get into bed with him. He has all these visions of their future together and how she'll adore him... because he's been so darned swell all along, allowing her to wipe her feet on him.
Isn't it attractive? I mean seriously, Sierra, doesn't that just moisten your loins and make you want to bear his children? At that description aren't you just salivating like Pavlov's dog? Don't you just think of a guy like that and the words "Mmm-MM, sweet as candy, got to GET me some" just fly into your forebrain?
Eventually Nice Guy (as distinctly differentiated from a nice guy, because a nice guy is a nice guy but he's not going to put up with crap just because it's coming from a woman, and he owns a good, properly-stiff-yet-flexible spine) gets tired of it all, being used, being a doormat, and he gets up from outside the step and he goes to a bar, has a few drinks and comes to CD to pout and cry and call women bi***es and explain why they're all users.
Nice Guy vs a nice guy...
Nice Girl vs a nice girl...
See the difference?
Except that the more I read, the more I'm realizing that while I've heard about Nice Guys for years, I really seldom hear about Nice Girls. I've known a few in my time and they really are the equivalents of Nice Guys (as described in my first couple of posts in this thread) -- but I'm realizing as I read the slowly-growing number of posts from women in this thread that women really don't seem to draw the same distinction with Nice Girls that they do with Nice Guys.
At my age, I can tell you a LOT of guys prefer the crazy, wild type and the shy, reserved ones are left aside. Looks play an important role though.
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Pretty confusing, isn't it...?!
I guess I have a bitc*hy facade and a damn "nice" core! Not a good combination!
