Alone for the holidays? (mother, boring, dinner, giving)
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I've done it for years. The only big difference is that nothing's really open, and I don't have to work that night.
That only applies to Thanksgiving and Christmas though, the other holidays, if they fall on a weekday, we still work--Memorial Day, Independence Day, Columbus Day, Martin Luther King's Birthday, etc.
A few weeks back I had told my mother that I won't be over for the holidays. In recent years they have been spent at my cousin's house (who I can't stand. She is bossy and her husband is a hot headed bully.) My mother always feels she has to be nice to them because they help her do things (my mother has always been dependent on other people.)
I always feel uncomfortable and awkward going over. I don't drive and they live about a half hour away, so someone will have to meet me somewhere to pick meup and go over.
I am single,so I feel more like an outcast when I am around.
Anyway, my question is if anyone else dreads the holidays as much as I do and how do they cope? Honestly, I would much be happier being by myself than feeling "obligated" to go somewhere I won't be happy. (Shouldn't the holidays be about happiness anyway?)
I have never had the "miserable" time with relatives that so many claim to have. Nor have I ever felt obligated to spend time with family during the Holidays. I have also have never felt like an outcast for being single or childless. It has never been an issue.
I have spent many Holidays by myself, or with what ever GF I may have had at the time. Sometimes I would tag along to her family's gatherings.
This year, I will be alone for Thanksgiving and more than likely, Christmas, too. Don't get me wrong, it is kind of a bummer, but nothing that gets me down or ruins that day.
Small update. My mother called and asked if Iwill be over. I told her that I wasn't (my aunt is having dinner and the cousins will be there.) She seemed OK with it. Anyway, I suggested that we met that weekend and go out for lunch or shopping (or whatever.) She was actually receptive about that.
My husband passed away a few months ago and my son and I will be "alone" for the holidays this year..."Alone" in the sense that my husband won't be with us and we'll sure miss him...Some friends invited us over to their house for Thanksgiving and this was sure nice...My son has some reservations about going to our friends' house because some of their "ways" are different than our "ways" but all in all they have been good friends to us since my husband passed away and been very caring...It just seems too sad to stay home and cook a meal just for the two of us right now....My husband used to do a lot of the cooking too....Going out to eat seems "lonely" too...It might help to be around friends on Thanksgiving. I miss the holidays we used to have with my parents and other family members when they were alive but a lot of "games" went on at these gatherings along with "good times" too....It was never "perfect." I am open to spending time with good friends on holidays...People don't have to be "blood relatives" as far as I'm concerned. How do you feel about it?
A few weeks back I had told my mother that I won't be over for the holidays. In recent years they have been spent at my cousin's house (who I can't stand. She is bossy and her husband is a hot headed bully.) My mother always feels she has to be nice to them because they help her do things (my mother has always been dependent on other people.)
I always feel uncomfortable and awkward going over. I don't drive and they live about a half hour away, so someone will have to meet me somewhere to pick meup and go over.
I am single,so I feel more like an outcast when I am around.
Anyway, my question is if anyone else dreads the holidays as much as I do and how do they cope? Honestly, I would much be happier being by myself than feeling "obligated" to go somewhere I won't be happy. (Shouldn't the holidays be about happiness anyway?)
Why not go out for dinner..Tell your mom you already have plans..Lots of restaurants are serving dinner..Its ok to be alone..I bet someone would be willing to let you join their table..If they ask if your alone and say yes..My family is far away and I'm not able to be with them..just dont say how far away they are..People are very nice..I bet you'll make some good friends..Go out and enjoy yourself
Why not go out for dinner..Tell your mom you already have plans..Lots of restaurants are serving dinner..Its ok to be alone..I bet someone would be willing to let you join their table..If they ask if your alone and say yes..My family is far away and I'm not able to be with them..just dont say how far away they are..People are very nice..I bet you'll make some good friends..Go out and enjoy yourself
I think I will be doing that as well as checking out a movie. I wonder if the coffee houses are open too?
I think I will be doing that as well as checking out a movie. I wonder if the coffee houses are open too?
Yes they will be open..
I love to take myself out to dinner..I often make lots of friends.
Coffee houses and movies will be open
I hope you have a wonderful holiday
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