60 y.o. men, 40 y.o. women (dating, wife, married, lover)

[OngletNYC]

Now that I am paying a little more attention to what is going on in the dating world, I note that here in NYC a lot of single men who are around the age of 60 are all about women who are 40. This includes the really wealthy ones - we have a lot of those in this city. These guys have enough money to attract women in their mid to late 20s if that is what they want (and of course according to City Data that's what most men want.) Why have they decided that 40 is the sweet spot?

Is it because - its as young as they can date and not look ridiculous going out to dinner or introducing her to business associates & friends?

Is it because - they want to go younger as all men do, but find that intellectually/emotionally, going any younger than 40 is difficult?

Is it because - they want to go younger, but want a more experienced lover?

Or none of the above?

I asked this of someone buried on another thread, but then decided to open it up to the floor.

[sierraAZ]

Well, in my opinion and personal experience most men find a difference of a generation to be satisfactory at any age.

As far as the reasons you listed, I'd go with #1 & #2.

[KylieEve]

Or perhaps it may be none of the above. Could it be that these men want a woman who is still relatively young yet is past the age of childbearing????

[Chowhound]

If I was an old school baller in my 60's and was able to get a 40 yr old woman, I'd venture to say it's all of the above.

[OngletNYC]

Originally Posted by KylieEve

Or perhaps it may be none of the above. Could it be that these men want a woman who is still relatively young yet is past the age of childbearing????

I have no idea, hence the thread!!!! Good point though, certainly could be it.

[KylieEve]

Originally Posted by OngletNYC

I have no idea, hence the thread!!!! Good point though, certainly could be it.

If I was a 60 year old guy the last thing I would want is a woman to pressure me into having kids....that's for sure.

[Coolhand68]

Originally Posted by OngletNYC

Now that I am paying a little more attention to what is going on in the dating world, I note that here in NYC a lot of single men who are around the age of 60 are all about women who are 40. This includes the really wealthy ones - we have a lot of those in this city. These guys have enough money to attract women in their mid to late 20s if that is what they want (and of course according to City Data that's what most men want.) Why have they decided that 40 is the sweet spot?

Is it because - they want to go younger as all men do, but find that intellectually/emotionally, going any younger than 40 is difficult?

I think in most cases it amounts to this. Wanting to go younger, but not too young. At 40, a woman pretty much knows what she wants and knows exactly what to expect from an older man. A man of 60 may feel comfortable with a 40 year old since she probably has had enough relationships to where she's comfortable with who she is...little or no hang-ups, emotionally mature, drama free. If she was married she's had long term relationship experience, and her kids if any are most likely grown. She's not so young that she won't get the jokes, and still has the vibrancy and vitality that rivals some younger women.

[MattB4]

Hmm... a women that could be your daughter versus one that could be your grand daughter? Decisions ..decisions? There is always a degree of Social/family acceptability though other factors such as maturity can play a role.

Of course the younger gal can keep the bed warmer so that is also a factor to keep in mind.

[SOON2BNSURPRISE]

Why can't the 60 year old guy have both a 40 year old girl friend and a 20 year old girl friend? I mean as you stated these are guys that have money. It seems that if they are choosing to be with someone that is 40 it is their choice. We will never know the answer to that. Then again I have a young wife who tells me she is turning 40 next year. I would marry her again. Being 40 doesn't mean that a woman is old anymore. Age is something that you choose now adays. Are you sure that those women are 40? Maybe they are 60 and just look 20 years younger. LOL

[lionking]

I'd say reason #2 plus the fact that in the 40's a lot of women are still damn hot and want to have sex sex sex. Women past 50 can be hot still also but you know what I mean. Plus at least in her 40's and he in his 60's there is still a chance she connects with him for more than being provided for.