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She'd be telling you she's not interested in a relationship with you.
i hope someone i just met doesn't want to get into a relationship with me. that's a red flag. i expect at least a few dates before discussing getting into a relationship.
i hope someone i just met doesn't want to get into a relationship with me. that's a red flag. i expect at least a few dates before discussing getting into a relationship.
Red flag? Okay, Oprah.
She's saying that she knows that she will never want a relationship with you.
Well first of all, it would have to definitely be brought up to me the second we started seeing each other. I don't like being left in the dark. If he waited for a long time to tell me he was juggling a bunch of other women, that would just show me he's a liar and possibly a cheater and I'd drop him as soon as I found out.
That being said, if the guy was up front with me and told me flat out that he would be seeing other women to figure out who he wanted to date, that would be fine by me. Still, like someone else said, it would depend on what type of relationship I'm looking for. Like I would be more than happy with him juggling as many women as he wanted if I was just looking for a short-term, let's have fun, kind of fling friends with benefits type of relationship. If I was looking seriously, I'd wanna know who he's dating at least. But I never jump into anything anyway, so I guess a man who starts off as a friend could turn into a boyfriend, but still ...
Oh yes, and most importantly, just like another post said, I would have to be free to do the same damn thing. That way it wouldn't be me wasting my time. Kuz in the end, if he doesn't decide to see me or vise versa, at least I know I wasn't just standing there waiting for him for no reason. I was having fun too.
I never comitted to a guy after only one or two dates. If you are trying to get to know someone I don't see a problem with getting to know other people at the same time. Especially in today's casual "hang out" kind of way. The problems only occur when you are slutty and have sex with people you don't know well and have no real relationship with and expect fidelity because of that. How stupid.
In my opinion, it depends on how well you connected or, perhaps, extenuating circumstances and the type of relationship I am hoping to establish. For example, if I am trying to establish a friend with benefits relationship, I feel I should be able to be a friend regardless of who else she is seeing.
Have you considered being more upfront about the type of relationship you want? However, in my opinion, it usually doesn't pay guys to be jealous in modern times.
Exactly, it depend on where you think it may go and what your looking for. I've done the casual thing before, but certain people are relationship potential and some people aren't. And sometimes I just plain old feel like being more social, so I date a few women who I am not that into.
I never comitted to a guy after only one or two dates. If you are trying to get to know someone I don't see a problem with getting to know other people at the same time. Especially in today's casual "hang out" kind of way. The problems only occur when you are slutty and have sex with people you don't know well and have no real relationship with and expect fidelity because of that. How stupid.
If I were truly interested in someone, I'd be cool with them getting to know other people early on, but I would not think about taking it to another level if I was really into her. If it progressed and she continued to get to know these other people, then I'd feel strung along and just move on. But if she were not dating others from the get go, I'd be more likely to stick around.
Well first of all, it would have to definitely be brought up to me the second we started seeing each other.
That being said, if the guy was up front with me and told me flat out that he would be seeing other women to figure out who he wanted to date, that would be fine by me.
Yes, this is the key. I asked from the beginning, before going out. An honest person will tell you "Yes, I'm talking to a few other people". That doesn't mean they don't like you. It means you asked a question and they are not a liar.
But if she has the chance to get to know me and others and wants to keep things the same, then I no longer take her seriously.
Last edited by FelixTheCat; 11-20-2010 at 03:08 PM..
If I were truly interested in someone, I'd be cool with them getting to know other people early on, but I would not think about taking it to another level if I was really into her. If it progressed and she continued to get to know these other people, then I'd feel strung along and just move on. But if she were not dating others from the get go, I'd be more likely to stick around.
In one relationship I have had, I was hoping to not let that stuff bother me. I knew I wasn't long term relationship material at the time and didn't want to "cramp" her style. It wasn't about stringing anyone along, but trying to find common interests and trying to be a friend (with benefits). As a California native, being a fair weather friend doesn't have the same negative connotation it does in other climates.
Would it be inappropriate to ask for a booty call relationship or a friend with benefits relationship? Modern times require modern forms of relating and relationships.
Only if she jumped into bed with you on the first or second date. If she seems to be the type to wait and see if you two would be compatible for a real relationship then yes, it would be inappropriate. I had a man propose that on a fourth date with me when things seemed to be moving in the right direction and he said he wasn't "feeling it" but he sure would like a FWB relationship. It was very upsetting b/c I was starting to think that he liked me better than that.
Anyway I don't even think you need to ask for a FWB relationship--if getting naked happens right away, you can just assume you have one of those.
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