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I love my family but I really don't get why y'all think she should still be nice to them simply because of blood. She didn't choose who the hell to be born to. If everyone in my family were total jerks who I couldn't stand, I'd just cut ties with them.
1: it sounds like you two are very happy together...
which leads me to the rest.
if your truly happy tell your family/friends that...
they make a nasty comment you pretty much turn around and tell them that you adore the man and everythign about him and if they have a problem with that they can take it somewhere else...
snidey comments like that are not welcomed around me no matter who its from...
i apreciate it when someone says somethign about someone im dating in concern...i found out after 5 yrs with my ex only after we broke up that alot of people saw things that i didnt pick up on...for example when we were out together with other people he was a perfect gentleman but when i wasnt around he was rude, obnoxious and quite frankly a scum bag, even as far as making sexual passes at other women in our friends group...and i honestly wish someone had taken me aside earlier in the relationship and told me this...
but just complaingin or calling someone neames ect based on his height...thats immature and uncalled for and i think, if you truly love the man the way you say you do, you should absolutly give the naysaysers a good talk about 1: how much you love him and think hes perfect for you...and 2: that if they dont like it they "dont have" to come to the wedding
flat out, tell them, the comments stop or youll be finding yourself some more accepting people to hang out with who will be happy that youve found a good guy who treats you like a princess.
I don't care if they are family I would not want to have anything to do with people who are bullies, ill behaved, rude, churlish and boorish. The man you love , who treats you like a Queen and is a real catch deserve better than those losers.
Nice people do not behave like this, not to your face , not behind your back. I chose to associate with people who are not morons with the emotional IQs of mouldy bread. Life is too short to accommodate people who feel it is OK to demean others.
Jerks are not worth losing time over. I don't care if you share genes with them.
I would personally give them once chance to redeem themselves, apologise and change. After that quite frankly it would be "Hello, Good-Bye" for me. Do not invite them to your Wedding, and never speak to them again.
I have a deep antipathy towards shallow sots , they are a waste of air and time. Plenty of nice people around who can appreciate the man you love as he deserves to be.
Do not let a go man potentially slip through your fingers because of some childish, vapid cretins. He is worth 1000 of them.
I don't care if they are family I would not want to have anything to do with people who are bullies, ill behaved, rude, churlish and boorish. The man you love , who treats you like a Queen and is a real catch deserve better than those losers.
Nice people do not behave like this, not to your face , not behind your back. I chose to associate with people who are not morons with the emotional IQs of mouldy bread. Life is too short to accommodate people who feel it is OK to demean others.
Jerks are not worth losing time over. I don't care if you share genes with them.
I would personally give them once chance to redeem themselves, apologise and change. After that quite frankly it would be "Hello, Good-Bye" for me. Do not invite them to your Wedding, and never speak to them again.
I have a deep antipathy towards shallow sots , they are a waste of air and time. Plenty of nice people around who can appreciate the man you love as he deserves to be.
Do not let a go man potentially slip through your fingers because of some childish, vapid cretins. He is worth 1000 of them.
I agree with Mooseketeer. I would not invite those family members to the wedding. They sound like classless dullards who add nothing to the quality of your life. Let them wallow in their own ignorance and selfishness. I wouldn't have anything to do with them.
i'm a tall woman too, 5'8-9. Now my man is 6 feet, but even if he were 5'6 I wouldn't blink. He's good to me. As you say in the original post, the man is funny, sweet, and good to his woman, so why should height change anything. Would her family rather him be 6 feet tall and a wife beater? No really I'm curious.
Nice day
Jessie
do it or die. Obviously this isn't true because if it were, your family wouldn't try so hard to break your happiness for something so stupid.
I'm a tall woman (between 5'11" - 6'). My fiance is 5'8", which I believe is about average for a man. He treats me like gold. He gives me anything I want as long as he can afford it. He makes me feel beautiful. He's very funny. We're best friends as well as lovers. And he can cook and clean. I consider him a catch. We're getting married in less than a year.
The problem is that some family members are very rude about the fact that he's shorter. They've called him an elf. One person told me that he better wear shoe lifts so that our photos are not ruined. Another person told me that she didn't know why such a smart and beautiful girl was wasting her time with someone like him. At the time I said that I was not settling.
At this point, I don't know what to do. Part of me wants to say don't come to the wedding if that is your attitude. I find it ironic that those who seem so against my fiance and I are either single, divorced, or in unhappy marriages. What should I do? Should I make a big deal about it and not invite them to the wedding?
I think that because you have chosen a life partner and your family isn't very supportive that they are a bunch of a-holes but, I digress.
The fact is, this is your life, the partner you've chosen to spend your life with and yes, you should say somthign to your family that their remarks are childish, immature and negative and that if they want to continue having a relationship with you they will mind their tongues and keep their thoughts to themselves.
I suppose when the rude folks make comments on any perceived height discrepancies you could get all dreamy eyed and tell them you are both the same height when laying down? Add in a big smirky grin and they should shut up after that.
Love this. Or you could go all dreamy eyed, and say, "Yeah, but he's tall enough to do what I need him to do." And yep--the big smirky grin. It should shut up all but the most persistent.
As for whether you should invite these people, maybe you should do a cost-benefit analysis. If it would really hurt your standing in the family to leave someone out, you'll probably have to invite them, but if it's someone that you need to cut out anyway, just "forget." As you get older, you'll find that you really don't want people in your life who'll drag you down.
I didn't get the gold digger thing either--I knew what you were trying to say.
What should I do? Should I make a big deal about it and not invite them to the wedding?
I think that depends how "closely" related you are...If it's a mother or sister, then yeah, no invitation is probably not an option. Dealing with family can be very frustrating...We cannot pick and choose who we associate with, unfortunately!
But seriously, I would stick up for your man. I'm sure you already do, but sometimes it requires at least one moment of serious verbal rage for them get the picture!
Don't let anyone take your joy.
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