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Old 11-28-2010, 03:36 PM
 
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Yesterday my boyfriend and I were out shopping and I spotted a couple sitting on a bench in the shopping mall. The girl was crying and saying things to the boy, and the boy was just shaking his head. I told my boyfriend of my observation and he said something like “you girls and your drama, we hate it!”

I told him relationships come with drama and that’s when he said “there is no drama, women create drama.”

I said that was a load of garbage and that if there is something on our mind we need to talk about it, we need to tell you our feelings and he said “we don’t WANT to talk about feelings!”. I asked if we were just expected to hold it all in but he didn’t respond, he was already distracted looking at something in the shopping mall.

The weird thing is, if we break up with our boyfriends telling them of the horrible things they’d said or done to us to hurt our feelings, they often say “why didn’t you tell me?!”. I don’t know WHAT we’re expected to do!

Do you believe this is the case? If the world was entirely male populated (impossible I know, but hypothetically speaking), would relationships be drama-free?

N.B. I am NOT looking for relationship advice I am just wanting to know your thoughts on this statement from both the male and female perspectives.

 
Old 11-28-2010, 03:41 PM
 
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Sorry, but I dated a guy who was such a drama queen he came to the hospital while I was in it having a hissy fit with me and I sent him packing while I was laying there passing a kidney stone. I couldn't take it anymore.
 
Old 11-28-2010, 03:46 PM
 
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I couldn't date your boyfriend, no way, no how.

It depends on people's personalities. It's not based on gender. It comes from genetics, childhood, what people put in their bodies, what goes on in their brains.

If your boyfriend thinks everything upsetting in life comes down to the pat answer,"...women create drama," I couldn't stand that myself. Phew.
 
Old 11-28-2010, 03:48 PM
 
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I don't know. All that I do know is that a woman told me a year ago that women can be very cruel, moreso than men. And it appears to be true. Sometimes talking about things isn't really productive and it's during those moments that the cruelty can present itself in the name of "telling you our feelings".

I don't subscribe to the notion that "women create drama", but they sure do know how to inflame it bc of the need to "tell you our feelings". Somethings don't need to be said.
 
Old 11-28-2010, 03:58 PM
 
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What a funny topic! VaNiLla...what do YOU think? Do you think women create drama?
I think this sounds childish. I think a grown, mature couple would not create such drama, although, it is possible. (shrugs)
I think if you have a problem, you talk it out. Drama? Not necessarilly.
 
Old 11-28-2010, 04:00 PM
 
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What a funny topic! VaNiLla...what do YOU think? Do you think women create drama?
No way, I disagree with him completely. I think couples should be able to talk about anything without it being considered drama. Communication is the key as they say!
 
Old 11-28-2010, 04:03 PM
 
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Sometimes talking about things isn't really productive and it's during those moments that the cruelty can present itself in the name of "telling you our feelings".
Not if you know the difference between communication and downright nastiness I would think?
 
Old 11-28-2010, 04:14 PM
 
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[FONT=Verdana]The weird thing is, if we break up with our boyfriends telling them of the horrible things they’d said or done to us to hurt our feelings, they often say “why didn’t you tell me?!”. I don’t know WHAT we’re expected to do! [/FONT]
We're expected to date men, not boys in men's bodies, like your boyfriend, who is the very KING of drama.

It's discouraging to see a post like this from you, because it indicates that you think your boyfriend is typical of his sex and you're actually taking the idiotic things he says seriously. Sorry, lovie, but this has to be said: Your boyfriend is a lousy excuse for a man. He is not typical of his sex by a long shot.

I know you don't want to hear it, but it is what it is. You really don't know what you're missing. I hope one day you snap out of your complacency and join those of us in the world of good relationships with good men. I'm saving you a seat.
 
Old 11-28-2010, 04:16 PM
 
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We're expected to date men, not boys in men's bodies, like your boyfriend, who is the very KING of drama.

It's discouraging to see a post like this from you, because it indicates that you think your boyfriend is typical of his sex and you're actually taking the idiotic things he says seriously. Sorry, lovie, but this has to be said: Your boyfriend is a lousy excuse for a man. He is not typical of his sex by a long shot.

I know you don't want to hear it, but it is what it is. You really don't know what you're missing. I hope one day you snap out of your complacency and join those of us in the world of good relationships with good men. I'm saving you a seat.
Can I get an AMEN up in here!
 
Old 11-28-2010, 04:19 PM
 
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No, it is not gender specific. Drama is not something I can handle, and I am a woman. Personally, I would leave rather than have silly arguments over unimportant things. Also, I am not giving YOU relationship advice. I am just saying what I would do if drama was present in my relationship.
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