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Here's a question for you, as I'm sure it's happened to everyone at least once before.
The quick rundown, I used to work with this girl, and she was very flirtatious with me. Some of us went out one night, and everyone kind of crept into their own little areas, leaving just us two. I tried to be a little more forward with her, and she gave me the, "I can't! We work together and I've had troubles with that before." Ok fine, she was considering me as just a friend and nothing more.
Well she's now no longer working with me, yet we still text/chat. We still also hung out, as friends, but she started making little comments such as, "I'd totally make out with you right now." During the time, I think she was just being comfortable with me, AS A FRIEND. About a couple weeks ago, she was drinking a little at her place, and started texting me some very suggestive things (about having sleepovers with me, wearing nothing to bed, etc.), but none of which lead to anything that night. The next morning I again talked with her, telling her that I was still very much into her, and that she would need to be straight up with me about how she felt.
Got the typical, "You're such a good friend, and I know I'm very flirtatious with you. I was drinking, and there might of been some truth to that, but I'm not looking for a boyfriend right now." I replied that it was fine, and I dig at least having her as a friend.
But the thing is, I just can't seem to get past that all she wants to be is friends, and I'm holding out hope against hope that maybe something will indeed happen. We're supposed to hang out again this weekend perhaps (which I eagerly await), and I hate that the entire time, I'm going to be sitting there hoping something more could happen between us.
What have you done in these types of situations, where you just can't get someone out of your head.
I say play the rejection card on her for awhile. Avoid her texts and appear to be intersted in others besides her. I think right now she knows she could have you if she wanted you and she isn't seeing the fun in that. Play the game with her a bit and turn your interest elsewhere. I bet that will make her assess her true feelings for you. Good or bad, at least you would know.
Stay "friends" with her and at the same time find someone else and see if she "the flirtatious friend" shows an interest in you on a higher level, if you know what I mean. If she does, then you know that there was something more there than just "Friends". If not, then you know that she was being truthful with you and you may find a great alley in helping you o be a good significant other to another woman. Which in any case made be a good thing, "life long friends".
What have you done in these types of situations, where you just can't get someone out of your head.
What are you into self punishment or something? You eagerly wait to have yet another let down by her again?
What would I do? Make a move and call her out, and if rejected move on to someone who is going to deliver.
You have done nothing to make her have to work for you, nothing to challenge her. Go find a chick that doesn't just tease because the siutation with this chick is basically hopeless.
Here's a question for you, as I'm sure it's happened to everyone at least once before.
The quick rundown, I used to work with this girl, and she was very flirtatious with me. Some of us went out one night, and everyone kind of crept into their own little areas, leaving just us two. I tried to be a little more forward with her, and she gave me the, "I can't! We work together and I've had troubles with that before." Ok fine, she was considering me as just a friend and nothing more.
Well she's now no longer working with me, yet we still text/chat. We still also hung out, as friends, but she started making little comments such as, "I'd totally make out with you right now." During the time, I think she was just being comfortable with me, AS A FRIEND. About a couple weeks ago, she was drinking a little at her place, and started texting me some very suggestive things (about having sleepovers with me, wearing nothing to bed, etc.), but none of which lead to anything that night. The next morning I again talked with her, telling her that I was still very much into her,and that she would need to be straight up with me about how she felt.
Got the typical, "You're such a good friend, and I know I'm very flirtatious with you. I was drinking, and there might of been some truth to that, but I'm not looking for a boyfriend right now." I replied that it was fine, and I dig at least having her as a friend.
But the thing is, I just can't seem to get past that all she wants to be is friends, and I'm holding out hope against hope that maybe something will indeed happen. We're supposed to hang out again this weekend perhaps (which I eagerly await), and I hate that the entire time, I'm going to be sitting there hoping something more could happen between us.
What have you done in these types of situations, where you just can't get someone out of your head.
Hi Preditor74,
The bold part sealed your fate as her personal kick puppy. Your femme fatale fou pas is a blessing in disguise. Do you really want to be the orbital schlub? "How do we stand" to a femme fatale flirt is the opening scene to Crickets and Frogs in the Wilderness. Acting like that isn't going to get it ,and why would you want it? When she rubs up to grampa when you go out for milk, you'll see why you don't.
She is a creature of hookup culture, and that is not my area of interest. However, I will say that the next one she does sleep with will be a jerk.
Best way is to start dating other women or get a hobby. Get rid of all her crap, pics, anything she gave you. Just do something to keep her off your mind. It's hard, but you can do it. We've all been there bro.
Here's a question for you, as I'm sure it's happened to everyone at least once before.
The quick rundown, I used to work with this girl, and she was very flirtatious with me. Some of us went out one night, and everyone kind of crept into their own little areas, leaving just us two. I tried to be a little more forward with her, and she gave me the, "I can't! We work together and I've had troubles with that before." Ok fine, she was considering me as just a friend and nothing more.
Well she's now no longer working with me, yet we still text/chat. We still also hung out, as friends, but she started making little comments such as, "I'd totally make out with you right now." During the time, I think she was just being comfortable with me, AS A FRIEND. About a couple weeks ago, she was drinking a little at her place, and started texting me some very suggestive things (about having sleepovers with me, wearing nothing to bed, etc.), but none of which lead to anything that night. The next morning I again talked with her, telling her that I was still very much into her, and that she would need to be straight up with me about how she felt.
Got the typical, "You're such a good friend, and I know I'm very flirtatious with you. I was drinking, and there might of been some truth to that, but I'm not looking for a boyfriend right now." I replied that it was fine, and I dig at least having her as a friend.
But the thing is, I just can't seem to get past that all she wants to be is friends, and I'm holding out hope against hope that maybe something will indeed happen. We're supposed to hang out again this weekend perhaps (which I eagerly await), and I hate that the entire time, I'm going to be sitting there hoping something more could happen between us.
What have you done in these types of situations, where you just can't get someone out of your head.
Any and all contact you keep with a woman after she turns you down other than a nice synonym for "later"(never) is a masochistic habit of self-torture.
Lose her number, move on.
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