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Is a lap dance cheating? It depends on the "rules" of your relationship. This is something for couples to decide themselves. If your girlfriend goes to lunch with a male co worker, do you consider that cheating? Its different for every guy. Personally I would not care as long as she isnt banging him afterwards.
Golden rule. Would you like your guy/girl to have a handsome built guy dancing on top of her with her hands all over his body? Would you like your guy to have a gorgeous slender in great shape girl rubbing her ass on him, his hands all over her, etc.?
Sounds fun to many until his/her partner is seen enjoying a lap dance with someone else.
If I were dating someone, I don't think I'd be able to handle someone else gyrating on top of him. I'd like to think that I'd be enough for him to want.
Is drinking milk straight from the bottle cheating?
I'm just sayin' that milk can taste seriously good...
No lap dances aren't cheating, but it's not something you do when you share bed and refrigerator with someone(other than if it's with the lap-dancer, then you can drink the milk out of the bottle too XD)...
So... Found out my husband had gone to strip club in St Louis during a hunting trip with the guys...he turned his phone off the whole time and says it was because he knew I would and felt bad about it. A few years later he admits he bought several lap dances at table in full view as did the others. He says there was no touching on his part but I find this hard to believe. O did he really touch, lick , etc. on her? Is he lying about more? He seems to truly feel bad and I want to forgive him but feel like maybe I really don't know who he is and that more happened. The second night they all went to a club ( not strip but reg dancing type etc). Says he just sat at table and drank his beer. His apology has been somewhat emotional and seems sincere. Any advice?
This is a debate that I’ve had with several men in the past and I’m curious to hear what all of you have to say…If I guy is dating someone exclusively or married, is it ok for him to go to a strip club and get a lap dance? For those of you who have not been to a strip club, not only does a lap dance consist of a naked woman gyrating in front of the guy but they often touch the guy all over and the guy can often touch/lick/fondle the girl, as well.
And how do you feel about bachelor parties? If the groom’s friends get him strippers and they are naked, grinding on him, touching, etc. is this ok?
I would prefer that guys didn’t go to strip clubs if I’m dating them but if they do, I would only want them to look and not touch and not get touched in any way because I do consider that cheating. What do you think?
naaah, a lap dance is just something to do at a strip club.
I personally don't like going to strip clubs, but it sure isn't cheating.
I don't care how emotional he seems.
He snuck out, turned his phone off, knew you'd be upset.....
Makes ya wonder what else he's done.....
And yes, if it was a guy I was with-
I'd consider it over at that point.
I'd tell him to go p*ss his money away
on that cheap sleazy stuff
& don't let the door hit him in the a$$
So... Found out my husband had gone to strip club in St Louis during a hunting trip with the guys...he turned his phone off the whole time and says it was because he knew I would and felt bad about it. A few years later he admits he bought several lap dances at table in full view as did the others. He says there was no touching on his part but I find this hard to believe. O did he really touch, lick , etc. on her? Is he lying about more? He seems to truly feel bad and I want to forgive him but feel like maybe I really don't know who he is and that more happened. The second night they all went to a club ( not strip but reg dancing type etc). Says he just sat at table and drank his beer. His apology has been somewhat emotional and seems sincere. Any advice?
You registered a new account on city data just to resurrect this thread 3 years after it was last posted to?
That said, I can understand why you would be having trust issues over this. I think that is a justifiable reaction.
Since he had his phone off, and has admitted he knew you would be upset, then he knew he was likely in the wrong at the time. Whether a married man getting a lapdance being "wrong" in general is immaterial to the fact that he did so, with a guilty feeling of violating your trust when he did it. For him and for your marriage, it was wrong.
That said, I would try to be more analytical than emotional here if I were you. It was a few years ago. How has your marriage been? Is it well? Is it troubled? Have there been signs he has been emotionally detached from you or distant or not? I cannot tell you whether or not to trust him or whether he should be, but based on the totality of your relationship and how it has been recently I think you may be able to answer that (or maybe you already are).
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