What exactly is the 'friend zone'? (boyfriends, men, husbands, sex)
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How do you know if you're in someone's, or have placed someone in yours?
not being on dates in the traditional sense
no physical affection
just not into you that way (i.e. your friend is asking for advice on his/her latest crush)
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Originally Posted by cuinlalaland
Is it really as bad as all the hype?
nope.
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Can you get out and if so how?
with me, nope. unless they're willing to jump in front of a bus for me.
i probably sound mean, but when you're just a guy's friend (for quite a while) -- you've already seen the qualities and dynamics in the friendship that would make a relationship highly improbable/ destructive.
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How does someone end up in YOUR friend zone?
meet a guy, evaluate if i'd like to go out with him or not, if no (meaning never) - then he's my friend if he'd also like me to be his friend
if not - sayonara
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Do you currently have a 'friend' with whom you'd like to be more?
nope. when there is someone i'd like to be more with, then i dont treat them like just a friend. i also dont act like just a friend and foster a friendship hoping for it to become something more. things have to be pretty clear from the beginning.
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There have been girls who I didn't want to be more than friends with who wanted more. Does that mean I put them in my friend zone?
To me, friendzone is a friend, buddy, or brother-like. There are no attractions. If it takes attraction to start a relationship (supposely), then you can't blame me for putting you in the friendzone even if you have the game. I don't know what's up with these "night" or "sleep" stuff but it's not my thing. If you're looking for that, go find someone else who's into that stuff. Maybe it's just me but I don't understand why people are disappointed or upset about these kind of stuff. There's nothing with the friendzone. To me, sometimes friendzone leads to more than friends. I just like getting to know people and who they are before I OK them.
Honestly, don't take it the wrong way if you are in the friendzone. You're actually "lucky" to be in the zone because I'm very cautious about picking my friends and who I am getting to know.
you've already seen the qualities and dynamics in the friendship that would make a relationship highly improbable/ destructive.
This is the part I don't get. WHY would you be friends with someone who you believe would be destructive in a relationship? I would want to stay as far away from someone like that as possible
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There's nothing with the friendzone. To me, sometimes friendzone leads to more than friends. I just like getting to know people and who they are before I OK them.
Honestly, don't take it the wrong way if you are in the friendzone. You're actually "lucky" to be in the zone because I'm very cautious about picking my friends and who I am getting to know.
That's an interesting distinction. You can be friends where both of you have left the door open. Or you could be in the 'friendzone' where the other person will never consider you for anything more.
Personally I would never consider a girl for a relationship until she has proven herself as a friend first. And it usually takes awhile (a few months at least) before I think I know someone well enough to decide if I want to date her.
the friend zone is the winner's circle for the Nice Olympics.
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