Does this happen to any guys who live in apartments? (married, woman)

[rlrl]

I posted this on the NY City forum but someone there said they thought it belongs in Relationships instead.

On Thanksgiving i had to work and didn't get much sleep the night before so i got halfway down the block and noticed i forgot my work keys so i turned back for them. As I was coming out of my building a tenant was walking her dog and on her way in. I held the lobby door for her and instead of going in she kind of backs off and hesitated, but i just kept holding it open until she went in. She reluctantly went in but i was kind of offended at her disposition. Being that it was 6:30 AM and still kind of dark and she may not have recognized me as a tenant and I could understand she might be feeling uncomfortable as a woman so early in the AM on a holiday

same night she's walking her dog and I'm walking with my stereo headphones. this time i feel as if i don't have the right to be there and that she thinks i'm following her

just now i'm ready to enter the elevator and i see her coming in from the lobby, but instead i said to myself **** it and didn't bother holding the elevator door for her and go on my way

things like this have happened occasionally. when they do i feel extremely offended by their off-puttingness and even accused

i know it's only non-verbal communication, but have any guys ever experienced this before? and no, I'm not interested in striking up a convo cause i'm not the chatty type. i just don't want to be considered a creep when i'm not this really irks me

[PeepoRsheep]

Originally Posted by rlrl

i know it's only non-verbal communication, but have any guys ever experienced this before? and no, I'm not interested in striking up a convo cause i'm not the chatty type. i just don't want to be considered a creep when i'm not this really irks me

Nonverbal communication is just as important (if not more) as any other communication. Even scarier is the nonverbal communication many of them give while they're behind the wheel. Tells me what they REALLY think.

[rlrl]

that because i'm not overly friendly in appearance and DO look serious he feels threatened? this is ridiculous because a latina neighbor on my floor always can be near me and appears relaxed with me

this is ridiculous. i haven't done anything to anybody

[Axle grease]

Originally Posted by rlrl

I posted this on the NY City forum but someone there said they thought it belongs in Relationships instead.

On Thanksgiving i had to work and didn't get much sleep the night before so i got halfway down the block and noticed i forgot my work keys so i turned back for them. As I was coming out of my building a tenant was walking her dog and on her way in. I held the lobby door for her and instead of going in she kind of backs off and hesitated, but i just kept holding it open until she went in. She reluctantly went in but i was kind of offended at her disposition. Being that it was 6:30 AM and still kind of dark and she may not have recognized me as a tenant and I could understand she might be feeling uncomfortable as a woman so early in the AM on a holiday

same night she's walking her dog and I'm walking with my stereo headphones. this time i feel as if i don't have the right to be there and that she thinks i'm following her

just now i'm ready to enter the elevator and i see her coming in from the lobby, but instead i said to myself **** it and didn't bother holding the elevator door for her and go on my way

things like this have happened occasionally. when they do i feel extremely offended by their off-puttingness and even accused

i know it's only non-verbal communication, but have any guys ever experienced this before? and no, I'm not interested in striking up a convo cause i'm not the chatty type. i just don't want to be considered a creep when i'm not this really irks me

NYC? I can see how some gals could be skiddish. Don't put so much effort into it next time. She might be married or has a BF. She could think you are trying to hit on her. After some nice gestures with no hitting on her, she will take it for what it is.

[rlrl]

holding a door for someone at 6:30 AM is hitting on her? I forgot the keys to my office for godsake and was on my way out.

you know i've been on this forum too long. i could condemn CD but it's really this forum that su***. i ain't coming back here. there are better forums than this

[android91891]

it's never happened to me but i guess it has a lot to do with looks i'm 19 and look like i'm 12 so i guess thats why

[EarthBound?]

Just a simple nod of the head and a "Ma'am Please" as you hold the door will put a lady at ease, without striking up any conversation. Just a small amount of a gentlemanly act goes a long way. You know, "pay it Forward".

I try to hold my tongue when I hold a door open for a lady and they just walk past you as if you owed that act of kindness to them and they don't reply with a simple, "thank you"..

[rlrl]

but i just can't deal with any of the responses here. i learned my lesson. why do i post on this forum when i already know the answers

OK i'll take the stairs from now on and go out the side door like a prisoner

[artemis agrotera]

haha

well, we can do it this way.....

What answer do you want to hear?

[rlrl]

such as automotive and music would be better forums to post on because RELATIONSHIPS both on this forum and in real life ain't my cup of tea!!