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Unread 12-07-2010, 05:45 PM
 
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Sex really makes things more complicated and unleashes a lot of unnecessary insecurities if only people could learn to be happy with simpler forms of affection. It also depends on your individual needs. Some people just need hugging MORE than they need sex because they never got enough of it. And so even though for some hugging, even holding hands, may seem trite and juvenile for your partner, to you it may be a very important and even spiritually sustaining experience.
Exactly, I can get attached to someone doing or sharing moments with them other than just sex. People always ask me did I sleep with him and when I say no. People are confused and act like you have to sleep with someone to become attached. Sometimes a good touch or shared laugh can be just as meaningful
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Unread 12-07-2010, 05:50 PM
 
Location: Blankity-blank!
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Sex really makes things more complicated and unleashes a lot of unnecessary insecurities if only people could learn to be happy with simpler forms of affection.

Insecurities? What other emotions are involved? Guilt? Shame?
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Unread 12-07-2010, 05:58 PM
 
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I am assuming that we are NOT talking about people with health/physical issues or people with religious hang-ups about it. With that being said, I dont understand it either.

Heck, I dont even think I can understand people who dont LOVE sex.

I do not like intercourse because I do not want to go through the physical pain to I guess finally receive some pleasure from all the breaking in horror stories. It just does not seems worth it. I love the foreplay and everything else about it and I get plenty of orgasms so it not of matter of being "loose"
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Unread 12-07-2010, 06:01 PM
 
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From a previous post:
Sex really makes things more complicated and unleashes a lot of unnecessary insecurities if only people could learn to be happy with simpler forms of affection.

Insecurities? What other emotions are involved? Guilt? Shame?
Emotions like does this person think I am easy. Will he be around the next day or even call and talk to me anymore. These are the decisions a lot of women have to make before deciding to have sex with someone. We as women go through more emotional consequences
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Unread 12-07-2010, 06:03 PM
 
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Sex is one of the best things about being alive...

Here is the secret guys: HELP WITH THE CHORES
...if your woman feels like a slave, a servant, or your mother- she isn't going to think you are very sexy.
I help with a lot of the chores. Based on the sexual frequency in my marriage, I can only surmise that my help is not appreciated. Maybe, I should do less.
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Unread 12-07-2010, 06:31 PM
 
Location: Toronto
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And, yes, there are some people who don't like sex. So what? That doesn't mean they don't like closeness or hugging or touching. It could mean they know that sex can get in the way of making a deeper connection with ones partner. Yes, having sex with someone is a great expression of love and acceptance but would you marry someone who you knew you would never have sex with? Could you love someone so much that sex wouldn't matter?

THAT is an expression of deep love also.
Yep. There are folks who do not desire sex -- or feel sexual attraction. But that's distinct from romantic attraction.

Asexuality - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
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Unread 12-07-2010, 06:36 PM
 
Location: Fort Worth, TX
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Can't say I've really had sex, but I do enjoy self-pleasuring myself so I can only assume that doing that with someone you care about must feel even better. So yeah, not sure how someone couldn't like it unless they're asexual or something.
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Unread 12-07-2010, 07:15 PM
 
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Sex is normal and natural. Actually, until I started posting on CD I didn't realize so many people had problems enjoying it. Earlier on this thread I discussed some reasons I think some people might not enjoy it. Luckily, I am not one of those people. To me it would be impossible to be in a relationship with a man who didn't enjoy sex, because I enjoy it a lot.
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Unread 12-07-2010, 07:26 PM
 
Location: SoCal - Sherman Oaks & Woodland Hills
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Emotions like does this person think I am easy. Will he be around the next day or even call and talk to me anymore. These are the decisions a lot of women have to make before deciding to have sex with someone. We as women go through more emotional consequences
So you have never had sex/intercourse then so you really dont know if you like it or not. Its like someone saying they dont like a certain food when they havent even tried it yet.
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Unread 12-07-2010, 07:30 PM
 
Location: Jacksonville, FL (Northside)
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I like sex, I do but it's got to be with the RIGHT person. It's not the end all be all for me like for some posters
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