I don't understand how someone can NOT like sex (Latin, physically, reasons)

[amanda0808]

I have to admit that I'm in the group that doesn't really care for sex. I don't know why, but it's just not something I've found myself wanting over the past few years. Not to say that I've been completely celibate...but it probably takes more for me to get into sex, or to gain a yearning for it, than it does the average woman.

[paganmama80]

Originally Posted by amanda0808

I have to admit that I'm in the group that doesn't really care for sex. I don't know why, but it's just not something I've found myself wanting over the past few years. Not to say that I've been completely celibate...but it probably takes more for me to get into sex, or to gain a yearning for it, than it does the average woman.

Have you had any stress lately? New children? Menopause? Any of those things can affect your drive.

[amanda0808]

Originally Posted by paganmama80

Have you had any stress lately? New children? Menopause? Any of those things can affect your drive.

No new children. No menopause yet. And not much stress. I'm just not much of a sexual person. I'm not complaining or anything...it's not something I lose sleep over. I just realize that I might be a little abnormal in this department when compared to others.

[fleetiebelle]

I just realize that I might be a little abnormal in this department when compared to others.

I don't think there really is a "normal" when it comes to sex drive. Some people could have it several times a day, some several times a year. It's all about what you and your partner can live with.

[andreaspercheron]

Originally Posted by DFOR

As a male, I guess I direct this more toward women. But realize that there are some men not interested.

Maybe it is as simple as their partners. But once in a while I'll read that someone doesn't care if they only have sex a few times per year. I don't understand this. It feels good, especially physically, but emotionally also.

What is it about it that some people don't like?

I definitely think it has a lot to do with past experiences and past partners. I personally love sex BUT my partner has to be as good if not better and the sex has to be amazing and very satisfying each and every time for me to be completely hooked. I've been very fortunate in that the men I've chosen in the past have had excellent sexual prowess and so we've had awesome lovemaking....
I think if everyone had that from the get go then yes, they'd all love sex.

[TakeAhike]

Originally Posted by andreaspercheron

I definitely think it has a lot to do with past experiences and past partners. I personally love sex BUT my partner has to be as good if not better and the sex has to be amazing and very satisfying each and every time for me to be completely hooked. I've been very fortunate in that the men I've chosen in the past have had excellent sexual prowess and so we've had awesome lovemaking....
I think if everyone had that from the get go then yes, they'd all love sex.

shrug--How difficult can it be? How difficult does any aspect of life have to be? Profoundly and extremely difficult for some apparently. Long lists of expectations and 'deal breakers'--shaking my head.

I know won't live that way.

[paganmama80]

Originally Posted by amanda0808

No new children. No menopause yet. And not much stress. I'm just not much of a sexual person. I'm not complaining or anything...it's not something I lose sleep over. I just realize that I might be a little abnormal in this department when compared to others.

You might just have a low drive is all.

[punky86]

Originally Posted by TakeAhike

shrug--How difficult can it be? How difficult does any aspect of life have to be? Profoundly and extremely difficult for some apparently. Long lists of expectations and 'deal breakers'--shaking my head.

I know won't live that way.

Well, often sex requires a person, at some point in time, to be selfless simply for the satisfaction of the another. Not many people posses that quality, oftentimes leaving someone unsatisfied. I think that's why sex is difficult for many people.

[onihC]

Originally Posted by TakeAhike

Some people use it as a means of control I suppose

= "legal" prostitution.

Originally Posted by lilamx

Climaxing comes easier for men, therefore they're more prone to enjoying it. It's more difficult for most women until they get to know their bodies and know what does it for them...so until then...it's not an enjoyable experience.

What confuses me sometimes is how women can easily achieve orgasm when they masturbate. And, yes MOST women masturbate (get to know their bodies) regardless of women having a hard time admitting it. So if they are totally capable, why is it that when they are with a guy they find it difficult? Sure, there can be many factors: the guy is bad in bed, she’s bad in bed, she doesn’t want to communicate, bad timing, stress, and what not. Same thing for men. If they are not enjoying it can be for the same reasons.

[amanda0808]

Originally Posted by paganmama80

You might just have a low drive is all.

That's pretty much what it is. It's just not a priority at this point in my life.