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Old 12-10-2010, 01:51 PM
 
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Honey if he's this way at 38 just think of how he will be down the road.

I'm 51 going on 52 and I can do it several times a day. I sometimes have to give my wife a break but if I go for a few days without it I'm ready to explode.

I'm so glad that my wife has a good sex drive also or I don't know what I would do. If you ask me age has nothing to do with having a good sex drive, either you have it or you don't.

busta
You may have a point.
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Old 12-10-2010, 02:16 PM
 
Location: Nashville, Tn
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I happen to think that if a guy is in a relationship something isn't quite right if he's looking at porn. I must admit if I had a girlfriend who liked to look at photos of naked men on the internet but didn't seem all that enthusiastic about having sex with me that I'd really have a problem with it. I hate to say it but it sounds like your relationship may be too one sided and that you might care for him more than he cares for you. I hope you can get it sorted out.
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Old 12-10-2010, 04:05 PM
 
Location: North Western NJ
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firstly theres MANY possibilities, mabe other people (say at work) have acess to his phone? ect...

but my question here realy is...have you asked HIM about it?
for a sexual relationship to realy truly work you HAVE to communicate, mabe you initiating all the time is stealing his thunder, mabe he feels immasculated by you "making the moves" all the time, mabe its overwhelming, mabe he doesnt know how to respond to nekkid pictures, mabe he wants the chance to wine and dine you...mabe hes so used to you initiation that hes just to lazy to do it himself...mabe hes worried if he does try to initiate hes taking somethign away from you...

my suggestion, sit down and REALY talk to him...hes told you that his sex drive is alot lower than it was...thats normal, so instead of constantly trying NEW things in the bedroom (which can be overwhelming if hes feeling like hes expected to perform) ask him what he finds a huge turn on...mabe for him topless pics are too forward, mabe instead hed prefer a picture of you in a sexy librarian outfit, mabe instead of flat out "hey i want sex" pictures, instead something that says 'hey im thinking of YOU...(not your penis)" instead of being brash mabe hed be more turned on by something with a classy feel,, mabe 50's pin ups do it for him...ect.

mabe he wants you to be submissive for a night, mabe hed be turned on by a romantic date where he gets to do all the romancing...theres sooooo many possibilities...

personally while i apreciate the naked form...someone, even SUPER attractive constantly sending me nekkid/topless pics would get old real fast...but send me a more classy and suggestive picture...a sexy outfit that says "hey baby" not "hey heres my boobs"

talk to him, find out what his BIG turn ons are, what his secret fantasies are and play with THOSE.

theres nothign wrong with you...nothign wrong with him...your just obviously on different pages...
and no...
just because he doesnt respond the way you expect him to when you send him nekkid pictures it does NOT mean hes not into you, does NOT mean he doesnt find you attractive...ect...
it just means your missing the target for one of many possible reasons.
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Old 12-10-2010, 04:24 PM
 
Location: Tampa (by way of Omaha)
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I concur.
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Old 12-10-2010, 04:55 PM
 
Location: South FL
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My boyfriend and I have been together only 2yrs a little less and one thing I know, having divorced over attraction issues, is that if you love someone, you have to be mature and realistic about attraction because it won't be new forever. I do a lot to keep it fun and fresh I think. I am willing to try everything and initiate sex 9/10 times we do it. I am usually the one wanting it. Maybe I overwhelm him, but my feelings have been hurt a lot over the fact that he doesn't take my picture(nude) or ask for sexy pics of me or even mention it to me or respond when I send him a topless pic of me. It is the craziest f------thing! Just writing this is so absurdly obvious that he doesn't find me attractive. What other option is there? Oh, I'm almost 40 but pretty hot still. Not large boobs but nice ones I think and tall and pretty enough? He insists that he is attracted and when I initiate sex he almost always gets into it, but he truely never shows desire for me first. and the photo thing is just beyond me! He likes to look at pics of women on line and I'm sure he watches porn a little so why not ever want a picture of me to look at? even if you don't get turned on by pics of your GF like you would a porn star, shouldn't you at least fake it to make her feel good? What is going on with this guy?
He doesn't need to be looking at pictures of you when he already has you. He can just see you naked life without anything stopping him. Men enjoy looking at pictures of women they cannot have or could only have very rarely, or perhaps in the very beginning of relationship when it's still fresh.

Some men don't feel comfortable receiving anything provocative on the phone, although I don't think it's the case here otherwise he would have already told you.
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Old 12-10-2010, 06:14 PM
 
Location: Vegas, baby, Vegas!
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I also don't really appreciate getting naked pictures, if we are dating and not yet sleeping together it ruins the excitement and expectation, and If we are already having sex, I have a picture in my mind of her naked, and can remember that and smile.

Pictures, photos, naughty emails, etc. Can be lost, can be found, can be seen, can be discovered by others.

Lets say, 4 years from now you are seeing someone else, and he finds naked pictures of your ex on your phone, or in your computer.

All of a sudden a perfect relationship has a crack.

Is it worth it?

Jonathan
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Old 12-10-2010, 06:19 PM
 
Location: Northside Of Jacksonville
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If you were my woman and you sent me provocative pics...you'd be in trouble, the good kind
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Old 12-10-2010, 09:59 PM
 
Location: state of procrastination
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My husband is fairly hot but that doesn't make me want to initiate sex or have nekkid pics of him. It doesn't mean I don't think he's not hot either. Maybe you should get some new lingerie? Maybe he's just not that visual?
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Old 12-11-2010, 05:57 AM
 
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Haha. I like your no nonsense approach to this. The simplicity actually helps lighten my mood but I guess I don't quite believe he is gay. He was in the Navy for a few years...hmmm Oh,and jeep girl, he is a jeep guy. Trying to look tough to hide his feminine side?
Nah, that is what all the metrosexuals say when they are wheeling around in their VW Bugs and Honda Civics. It's the other way around. What real man drives a freaking Bug anyway? LMAO
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Old 12-11-2010, 09:09 AM
 
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My boyfriend and I have been together only 2yrs a little less and one thing I know, having divorced over attraction issues, is that if you love someone, you have to be mature and realistic about attraction because it won't be new forever. I do a lot to keep it fun and fresh I think. I am willing to try everything and initiate sex 9/10 times we do it. I am usually the one wanting it. Maybe I overwhelm him, but my feelings have been hurt a lot over the fact that he doesn't take my picture(nude) or ask for sexy pics of me or even mention it to me or respond when I send him a topless pic of me. It is the craziest f------thing! Just writing this is so absurdly obvious that he doesn't find me attractive. What other option is there? Oh, I'm almost 40 but pretty hot still. Not large boobs but nice ones I think and tall and pretty enough? He insists that he is attracted and when I initiate sex he almost always gets into it, but he truely never shows desire for me first. and the photo thing is just beyond me! He likes to look at pics of women on line and I'm sure he watches porn a little so why not ever want a picture of me to look at? even if you don't get turned on by pics of your GF like you would a porn star, shouldn't you at least fake it to make her feel good? What is going on with this guy?
He sounds like a Guy who runs counter to our sex saturated deviant Culture and may have a great deal of respect toward you for not having provacative pictures of you that could fall into the wrong hands . No, i dont think a GUy should fake anything , and i believe you should turn from your philosophy of exhibitionism to make yourself feel better, desirable, etc... Keep your (nude) body private and dont fall into the common trap of using your sexuality to a codependent degree.
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