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Old 12-12-2010, 10:59 AM
 
Location: South FL
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I was going to write something along these lines, but I decided to read through the thread and see if someone else would beat me to the punch. I'm surprised it was a woman who did so. You have a keen understanding of men, max's.

OP, I wouldn't necessarily take the picture thing as an insult. As for the non initiation of sex, that's more troubling. If I were you, I'd quit initiating and see what happens as an experiment.
Every time someone says that, I blush. Honestly.
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Old 12-12-2010, 11:59 AM
 
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Default Why wouldn't he want sexy pics of me?

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I am tall, brunette, fairly athletic build with size Cs and nice hips, etc. Nothing is stand out hot about me but I've always been considered attractive to men I think. I am smart and confident and funny and flirty. I am not a sex pot but I like to act like one and I freakin love sex. When i send pics(only three times because of the lack of interest generated) I take many in different positions and only send a couple of hte best ones. I don't look great in every picture but who does. I don't think I photograph very well but they are not bad either. Shouldn't he just appreciate my willingness to be sexy for him?
Not all guys think the same. I certainly would be pleased if my lady would have given me photos of herself. But, she wouldn't allow any nude photos, which kind of irritated me. One thing I can say to you, you will never be sorry you have had these photos taken, youth fades quickly and no one will look as good tomorrow as they do today. I see nothing wrong with nude photographs as long as some thought goes into it and the pses are classy and in good taste.

Do you think there is any chance you could talk to your boyfriend about these issues? If you could, then you would get insight into your relationship that could possibly help it in other ways.
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Old 12-12-2010, 12:47 PM
 
Location: My Private Island
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Im interested at how many of you think it is normal not to want naked pics of a girlfriend. I guess that helps me be at peace with it. I disagree with this huge concern some of you have with the photos being misused on the internet. There are lterally billions os nude pics out there and it is naive to think all my friends and family are going to runacross my photo while surfing. It would only show my boyfriend in a bad light if he did that not me. The desire to have pics of your gf is not new with digital media it is a sweet oldfashioned idea in my opinion but maybe it has been ruined by all the revenge websites. Most people and certainly not my boyfriend is that cruel or tacky. Anyway, thanks for everyone's input. It has helped.
Imagine this:

What if your boyfriends phone gets lost or stolen? Now your naked pictures are at the hand of some stranger with who-know-what kind of intentions. You could be on websites, posters, etc. all over the place before you were even aware of it.

If it doesn't do anything for him then respect his feelings. Remember, you will not always be at this point and time in your life. Imagine your future husband, children, in-laws getting ahold of nude pics you sent today.
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Old 12-12-2010, 06:30 PM
 
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Don't give him what he don't want... Just go with the flow...
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Old 12-12-2010, 09:00 PM
 
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Im sorry to say..he must be gay..
he may be looking at other women..maybe trying to throw you off
your sexy and he wont look at you..he's gay
NO,NO,NO I cann't agree with you , I think the woman is so crazy!!
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Old 12-12-2010, 09:32 PM
 
Location: New Orleans, LA
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My boyfriend and I have been together only 2yrs a little less and one thing I know, having divorced over attraction issues, is that if you love someone, you have to be mature and realistic about attraction because it won't be new forever. I do a lot to keep it fun and fresh I think. I am willing to try everything and initiate sex 9/10 times we do it. I am usually the one wanting it. Maybe I overwhelm him, but my feelings have been hurt a lot over the fact that he doesn't take my picture(nude) or ask for sexy pics of me or even mention it to me or respond when I send him a topless pic of me. It is the craziest f------thing! Just writing this is so absurdly obvious that he doesn't find me attractive. What other option is there? Oh, I'm almost 40 but pretty hot still. Not large boobs but nice ones I think and tall and pretty enough? He insists that he is attracted and when I initiate sex he almost always gets into it, but he truely never shows desire for me first. and the photo thing is just beyond me! He likes to look at pics of women on line and I'm sure he watches porn a little so why not ever want a picture of me to look at? even if you don't get turned on by pics of your GF like you would a porn star, shouldn't you at least fake it to make her feel good? What is going on with this guy?
He's probably "tired" of you, it's not easy being with same person forever.

Ya'll probably have to do something together like go out somewhere and I'm not talking about sports bars and clubs(night clubs) cause' that stuff is just plain eh' old. Do something interesting like car shows and football games and to the lake and talk to each other more about something interesting and watch a movie like a comedy movie(like Me Myself And Irene for example).

That's the best thing I can tell you.
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Old 12-13-2010, 09:42 AM
 
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Im sorry to say..he must be gay..
he may be looking at other women..maybe trying to throw you off
your sexy and he wont look at you..he's gay
You're gay for saying that!

You ladies have to accept the fact that not all men are going to fall down and worship you when you take your clothes off. There are alot more important things in the world than you sometimes.

To pull out the "gay" card everytime you are rejected is down right cruel!!
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Old 12-15-2010, 10:49 PM
 
Location: Yucaipa, California
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That's what I think....I only send nudie pics to the bf's I don't see very often. That way they have something to look forward to. But then again, my pics are not lewd/raunchy, just works of art.
Its still nude pics.

DUH !
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Old 12-16-2010, 08:39 AM
 
Location: Central NJ
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First I am not going to look through all these post, so tell me did Lailababy post her pic?

But Lailababy, I think the picture issue means more about your likes and concerns then his.

I also think it great you want to keep it hot a exciting!
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Old 12-17-2010, 11:48 AM
 
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I think there is nothing wrong with an arousing picture, full of suspense and erotic in nature....for me, a picture of my wife in boots and skirt or stockings or something sexy that she knows I like is great.

Full nude, believe it or not, is not something I am interest in. Seduce my mind as well as body, then I am interested
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