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Old 12-10-2013, 07:56 PM
 
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I am going through the same thing and it's really effecting my self esteem. I at first don't or didn't mind him looking at other girls but now it bothers me and makes me angry. I try to send him sex pictures and he says I don't want my go to send those what if I loose my phone or a friend saw. I asked him to look at pictures of lingerie I liked or if he would go with me he says he's not a lingerie person. I want to do romantic things but he doesn't want to. He says he loves me all the time and when we lay with each other he's very cuddly but I feel like I'm always initiating sex. I am a very beautiful woman and I am getting hit on left and right and u take great pictures lol but I'm starting to understand why all of his ggirlfriends have cheated on him in the past
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Old 12-10-2013, 08:12 PM
 
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@dimples85, the relationship is over, he is not sexually attracted to you anymore. He loves you but he is over it. I'm sure the same thing happened with his past gf's. The relationship ran it's course.
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Old 12-10-2013, 11:39 PM
 
Location: Riverside Ca
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My boyfriend and I have been together only 2yrs a little less and one thing I know, having divorced over attraction issues, is that if you love someone, you have to be mature and realistic about attraction because it won't be new forever. I do a lot to keep it fun and fresh I think. I am willing to try everything and initiate sex 9/10 times we do it. I am usually the one wanting it. Maybe I overwhelm him, but my feelings have been hurt a lot over the fact that he doesn't take my picture(nude) or ask for sexy pics of me or even mention it to me or respond when I send him a topless pic of me. It is the craziest f------thing! Just writing this is so absurdly obvious that he doesn't find me attractive. What other option is there? Oh, I'm almost 40 but pretty hot still. Not large boobs but nice ones I think and tall and pretty enough? He insists that he is attracted and when I initiate sex he almost always gets into it, but he truely never shows desire for me first. and the photo thing is just beyond me! He likes to look at pics of women on line and I'm sure he watches porn a little so why not ever want a picture of me to look at? even if you don't get turned on by pics of your GF like you would a porn star, shouldn't you at least fake it to make her feel good? What is going on with this guy?



Send me some pics and I'll let you know what is wrong if anything. Jk

Seriously I have never taken a naked pic of my wife nor has she sent one to me. I find my wife sexy and attractive. No sane man who is attracted to their woman who as you say is ready to go wild will not initiate something.

If he is looking at other naked women and never initiates sex then he either does not find you attractive any longer or he already has a new ride. He just hasn't told you he went shopping. He probably doesn't want the new GF to accidentally find your pic
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Old 12-10-2013, 11:43 PM
 
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My boyfriend and I have been together only 2yrs a little less and one thing I know, having divorced over attraction issues, is that if you love someone, you have to be mature and realistic about attraction because it won't be new forever. I do a lot to keep it fun and fresh I think. I am willing to try everything and initiate sex 9/10 times we do it. I am usually the one wanting it. Maybe I overwhelm him, but my feelings have been hurt a lot over the fact that he doesn't take my picture(nude) or ask for sexy pics of me or even mention it to me or respond when I send him a topless pic of me. It is the craziest f------thing! Just writing this is so absurdly obvious that he doesn't find me attractive. What other option is there? Oh, I'm almost 40 but pretty hot still. Not large boobs but nice ones I think and tall and pretty enough? He insists that he is attracted and when I initiate sex he almost always gets into it, but he truely never shows desire for me first. and the photo thing is just beyond me! He likes to look at pics of women on line and I'm sure he watches porn a little so why not ever want a picture of me to look at? even if you don't get turned on by pics of your GF like you would a porn star, shouldn't you at least fake it to make her feel good? What is going on with this guy?

I've been with my husband for 10 years and we have been married for 7 years and he has never once hinted let alone asked if he could take nude photos of me.
I would say the issue is all yours and not his. Not every man wants nude photos of the woman he is serious with to carry in his wallet.
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Old 12-11-2013, 12:06 AM
 
Location: New Zealand and Australia
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Im sorry to say..he must be gay..
he may be looking at other women..maybe trying to throw you off
your sexy and he wont look at you..he's gay
Women who often say this sort of dribble, crack me up.
He doesn't like her, he must be gay.

Sometimes we aren't into you. We may be under stress, busy with something else, millions of reasons. Yet women keep going back to the gay line. Only one in 25 men are gay.
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Old 12-11-2013, 08:53 AM
 
Location: Bellmore
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Having my wife/girlfriend send me pics of herself does not devalue her in my eyes. I would think its hot, fun, and sexy that she would share that with me. She would already know that I think she's attractive by virtue of the fact that we are together, so she shouldn't be shy or wondering whether I would like the pics or not.

Bottom line, something is wrong with your guy.
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Old 12-11-2013, 02:09 PM
 
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I am going through the same thing and it's really effecting my self esteem. I at first don't or didn't mind him looking at other girls but now it bothers me and makes me angry. I try to send him sex pictures and he says I don't want my go to send those what if I loose my phone or a friend saw. I asked him to look at pictures of lingerie I liked or if he would go with me he says he's not a lingerie person. I want to do romantic things but he doesn't want to. He says he loves me all the time and when we lay with each other he's very cuddly but I feel like I'm always initiating sex. I am a very beautiful woman and I am getting hit on left and right and u take great pictures lol but I'm starting to understand why all of his ggirlfriends have cheated on him in the past
I will be glad to receive all pictures....LOL sorry i had too.

I don't understand why guys wouldnt want their girl to send them dirty pictures....
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Old 12-11-2013, 02:18 PM
 
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well you could post some nude pics and we'll try to diagnose the problem.
Hero of the Republic
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Old 12-11-2013, 05:47 PM
 
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I'm dealing with somewhat the exact same issue with my gf...soon to be ex. We barely sleep together and she shows no interest. My guess, same as with my gf - he's just not attracted to you anymore. I read that you said you are still attractive and fit. Same here. No change since we've been together for 2 yrs, but she's just stopped totally. I guess sometimes no matter what someone does, their partner can become un-attracted. Sorry to hear you're dealing with this too.
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Old 12-11-2013, 09:34 PM
 
Location: Henderson, NV
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Once (after sending a pic) I had a boyfriend ask me if I sent it to anyone else (which I didnt of course) and then immediately deleted the pic from his phone and then asked me to do the same= Obviously insecure.
I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that it's insecurity. There's a reason I wouldn't keep a nude pic of my girlfriend on my phone, OR on my computer. Computers get hacked, and phones get lost or borrowed. I've got more respect for my girlfriend than to take the chance that she'd end up all over the internet because of me.

Understand, I'd be more than happy to get the pic, but I definitely would erase it unless she were a nude model doing pictorals for Playboy. Then it's already out there.

Now, if you are a nude model, and he erased it or has issues with it, then I'd say it's insecurity.

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