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Old 12-10-2010, 12:35 PM
 
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Default Why wouldn't he want sexy pics of me?

My boyfriend and I have been together only 2yrs a little less and one thing I know, having divorced over attraction issues, is that if you love someone, you have to be mature and realistic about attraction because it won't be new forever. I do a lot to keep it fun and fresh I think. I am willing to try everything and initiate sex 9/10 times we do it. I am usually the one wanting it. Maybe I overwhelm him, but my feelings have been hurt a lot over the fact that he doesn't take my picture(nude) or ask for sexy pics of me or even mention it to me or respond when I send him a topless pic of me. It is the craziest f------thing! Just writing this is so absurdly obvious that he doesn't find me attractive. What other option is there? Oh, I'm almost 40 but pretty hot still. Not large boobs but nice ones I think and tall and pretty enough? He insists that he is attracted and when I initiate sex he almost always gets into it, but he truely never shows desire for me first. and the photo thing is just beyond me! He likes to look at pics of women on line and I'm sure he watches porn a little so why not ever want a picture of me to look at? even if you don't get turned on by pics of your GF like you would a porn star, shouldn't you at least fake it to make her feel good? What is going on with this guy?
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Old 12-10-2010, 12:41 PM
 
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My boyfriend and I have been together only 2yrs a little less and one thing I know, having divorced over attraction issues, is that if you love someone, you have to be mature and realistic about attraction because it won't be new forever. I do a lot to keep it fun and fresh I think. I am willing to try everything and initiate sex 9/10 times we do it. I am usually the one wanting it. Maybe I overwhelm him, but my feelings have been hurt a lot over the fact that he doesn't take my picture(nude) or ask for sexy pics of me or even mention it to me or respond when I send him a topless pic of me. It is the craziest f------thing! Just writing this is so absurdly obvious that he doesn't find me attractive. What other option is there? Oh, I'm almost 40 but pretty hot still. Not large boobs but nice ones I think and tall and pretty enough? He insists that he is attracted and when I initiate sex he almost always gets into it, but he truely never shows desire for me first. and the photo thing is just beyond me! He likes to look at pics of women on line and I'm sure he watches porn a little so why not ever want a picture of me to look at? even if you don't get turned on by pics of your GF like you would a porn star, shouldn't you at least fake it to make her feel good? What is going on with this guy?
well you could post some nude pics and we'll try to diagnose the problem.
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Old 12-10-2010, 12:44 PM
 
Location: The "A"
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Maybe even though he looks at other chics online or even porn he sees them as dirty/tainted. And he doesnt want to look at you that way.

As far as why not ever iniatiate sex. That's a weird one. Can't help you there. Most guys I know initiate it. some guys do not like to look at their women as a sexual objects and cannot seem to be a "freak" with them or get "freaked" by them. maybe that's his problem. He would rather do that with other women.

But for relationships to work... the man has to do ALL the fantasy stuff he has with his woman. Otherwise he will always be willing to do with someone else.
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Old 12-10-2010, 12:45 PM
 
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For some people, looking at total strangers that way is one thing, but your own girlfriend may not want to be seen in a sleezy fashion. It may not have anything at all with your sexuality or the way you look, just his preference in how he wants to see you.
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Old 12-10-2010, 12:45 PM
 
Location: colorado
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My boyfriend and I have been together only 2yrs a little less and one thing I know, having divorced over attraction issues, is that if you love someone, you have to be mature and realistic about attraction because it won't be new forever. I do a lot to keep it fun and fresh I think. I am willing to try everything and initiate sex 9/10 times we do it. I am usually the one wanting it. Maybe I overwhelm him, but my feelings have been hurt a lot over the fact that he doesn't take my picture(nude) or ask for sexy pics of me or even mention it to me or respond when I send him a topless pic of me. It is the craziest f------thing! Just writing this is so absurdly obvious that he doesn't find me attractive. What other option is there? Oh, I'm almost 40 but pretty hot still. Not large boobs but nice ones I think and tall and pretty enough? He insists that he is attracted and when I initiate sex he almost always gets into it, but he truely never shows desire for me first. and the photo thing is just beyond me! He likes to look at pics of women on line and I'm sure he watches porn a little so why not ever want a picture of me to look at? even if you don't get turned on by pics of your GF like you would a porn star, shouldn't you at least fake it to make her feel good? What is going on with this guy?

Well what do you look like first..
My ex was fat...I wasnt attracted to his body..so I didnt have naked his of him or want them
So what do you look like??
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Old 12-10-2010, 12:53 PM
 
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I am tall, brunette, fairly athletic build with size Cs and nice hips, etc. Nothing is stand out hot about me but I've always been considered attractive to men I think. I am smart and confident and funny and flirty. I am not a sex pot but I like to act like one and I freakin love sex. When i send pics(only three times because of the lack of interest generated) I take many in different positions and only send a couple of hte best ones. I don't look great in every picture but who does. I don't think I photograph very well but they are not bad either. Shouldn't he just appreciate my willingness to be sexy for him?
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Old 12-10-2010, 12:56 PM
 
Location: colorado
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I am tall, brunette, fairly athletic build with size Cs and nice hips, etc. Nothing is stand out hot about me but I've always been considered attractive to men I think. I am smart and confident and funny and flirty. I am not a sex pot but I like to act like one and I freakin love sex. When i send pics(only three times because of the lack of interest generated) I take many in different positions and only send a couple of hte best ones. I don't look great in every picture but who does. I don't think I photograph very well but they are not bad either. Shouldn't he just appreciate my willingness to be sexy for him?

Im sorry to say..he must be gay..
he may be looking at other women..maybe trying to throw you off
your sexy and he wont look at you..he's gay
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Old 12-10-2010, 01:00 PM
 
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Haha. I like your no nonsense approach to this. The simplicity actually helps lighten my mood but I guess I don't quite believe he is gay. He was in the Navy for a few years...hmmm Oh,and jeep girl, he is a jeep guy. Trying to look tough to hide his feminine side?
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Old 12-10-2010, 01:02 PM
 
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I'm still waiting for a gal to send me nude pics of herself...sigh.

Don't know what to make of this. If he's watching porn or looking at nude pics of other women it may be a "respect" issue as the others have pointed out. He might view them as gratification and below you. The sex stuff is kinda weird. Hard to imagine making no moves when you have a woman that is into you. Can't help you with that one.
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Old 12-10-2010, 01:04 PM
 
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I am willing to try everything and initiate sex 9/10 times we do it
Wow! How nice

If he was not into you then why is he with you? We canít say heís with you because of the sex or it would show. See, this is the thing many guys can go through when they see they are always the ones taking the initiative for sex.

I can imagine many girls around here have it the other way around. Letís see what they say and how they deal with their man every time they tell him ďnoĒ. Different sexual appetite I guess. Doesnít mean he loves you more or less.

Sex is a part of the relationship, not the whole focus of it. What are the things you like about him?
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