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I may get flamed for this, but I don't understand this attitude at all.
Exactly..she has no respect for her husband..I wonder if she even really loves him..
All this resentment over a Christmas party..She just pushes people away..
I pity her
well Let me tell you I once worked for a company that had their xmas party in the back of the building and we were not allowed to have our spouses at the party , so I left and went home and the next day following the holiday I was fired . I sued and got quite a bit of money . They no longer have the xmas party period . They give gift cards . I know cause a relative of mine still works there but they dont know we are relatives because of different last names if they ever knew they would probably have let them go too . You dont have to go to these stupid things , I dont like the food and I never socialize with whom I work with end of story .
Well, the company Christmas party's that we've been to were super fun........yes, FUN! The food was great, had a few beers and played the casino games (fake money) that were totally fun! Now, since we in our early 60's with no kids/grandkids, we chose not to attend "family w/kids" type Christmas party's. A company that I use to work for had one of these but we didn't go. However, have gone to summer party's at a local zoo or amusement park where employees brought their kids.
I remember when I was younger my dads company had a christmas party she we all went..We had a blast..the adults drank..we ate so much food.
All the kids were playing together..Santa was drunk with a broken leg..lol..really the guy who played santa had a broken leg ....us kids laughed so hard..our parents partied to the wee hours ...us kids ran ourselves tired...My mom was a stay at home mom...and she made friends besides the other ones she already had...
Thanks mom and dad for the wonderful memory
Can't you find a babysitter for one night? Jeez, I think you should go, if nothing else for your marriage. It is more than "just a Christmas party". Please, put your marriage first. You sound like Mama Scrooge Central.
Last edited by jasper12; 12-13-2010 at 03:04 PM..
Reason: trying to be nicer to Mama Scrooge.
I think the OP just feels her husband is indifferent to her needs. He is basically saying my way or the highway I don't ccare what you think. To me he sounds controlling as he is not concerned that his wife who is from another country is isolated and all alone with 3 children. Also he refuses to go to a company party alone... What is wrong with this guy???
OP under what circumstances did you marry?? Sometimes men go to other countries looking for brides because they perceive them as poorer and easier to control then american women.
I think you need more social support. You can't stay isolated for your whole life. Since i doubt you can move, I think youll need to somehow make friends. When your kids are old enough to be in school i think that is an especially good time to join some sort of mom oriented group. I think it will be extremely helpful to have someone on your side.
I would never go to such a function unless it means a lot to my husband's career. Then I'd probably drop the baby off with the sitter, for the greater good.
However if his career does not depend on it, why even go? I'm not going to my own employer's holiday party and it is supposed to be really great with lots of booze and dancing. Why? Cuz I would rather sit in a corner at home and rock myself back and forth. It is my choice!
Quit whining, get a babysitter and go be sociable. If your husband doesn't want you to get a sitter, then he should go by himself. Noboday wants kids at an adult party.
Do you force your wife to go to a Christmas party?
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Originally Posted by victorhe33
I think the OP just feels her husband is indifferent to her needs. He is basically saying my way or the highway I don't ccare what you think. To me he sounds controlling as he is not concerned that his wife who is from another country is isolated and all alone with 3 children. Also he refuses to go to a company party alone... What is wrong with this guy???
OP under what circumstances did you marry?? Sometimes men go to other countries looking for brides because they perceive them as poorer and easier to control then american women.
I think you need more social support. You can't stay isolated for your whole life. Since i doubt you can move, I think youll need to somehow make friends. When your kids are old enough to be in school i think that is an especially good time to join some sort of mom oriented group. I think it will be extremely helpful to have someone on your side.
I think you are reading quite alot into this situation. He doesn't sound controlling to me, or most of the other posters. He sounds like he may a few bricks short of a full load, wanting to take a baby to a Company Christmas party, and not wanting to hire a babysitter. A company usually has a Christmas party as a way of saying 'thank you' to employees. Most company Christmas parties that I have attended were worthwhile affairs, and meaningful to, and appreciated by the employees.
"Sometimes men go to other countries looking for brides because they perceive them as poorer and easier to control then american women."
I don't know where you might have heard this above statement, I doubt that it is even close to being the truth. And, you should know you are speaking to a woman that has chosen to be isolated, if that is in fact what she is. The husband never said 'my way or the highway', and when you have three kids you are not alone. You have an over active imagination...
He sounds like he may a few bricks short of a full load, wanting to take a baby to a Company Christmas party, and not wanting to hire a babysitter.
Oh, it depends on the party! My company party is entirely kid-oriented, as if they bust off their asses all year! ALL kids are there, including babies! Frankly, I don't mind it. When I go, I'd rather kill time playing with the babies I like as opposed to socializing with adults I either don't know or don't like.
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Do you force your wife to go to a Christmas party?
ALL kids are there, including babies! Frankly, I don't mind it. When I go, I'd rather kill time playing with the babies I like as opposed to socializing with adults I either don't know or don't like.
