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Leave him, just leave him. Exhibit some form of control over your destiny and leave him. You always seem to have a new story about him being an utter dick, trust me people like that don't change.
She's getting something out of it. Lord knows what... but she's getting something.
This scenario isn't really important it's just another indicator of the incompatibility of you two. I mean hes an old homebody selfish chavunist nerd. Your a younger social feminist happy time girl. yea..... regardless of whether or not opposites attract, similarity is what binds.
The only reason your staying with him is because your financially dependent on him and youve gotten used to him.
Its just gonna suck when 5 years later you finallly leave him and realize what a waste of time it was and wish you had left him earlier.
It’s like anytime I show any human emotion other than being happy and bubbly 24/7 he perceives it as “attitude”. Anytime I show any power or independence!
I don't know one person that is happy & bubbly 24/7 and if you are you are lying to yourself and to him and he knows it. He may be a grumpy old selfish jerk, but he also probably knows that you are miserable despite your smiling bubbly self; that you secretly don't really want to be with him and wish you could have a different kind of life; that you probably stay out of fear or need and not necessarily out of love; that you wish you could find a way out, but you're waiting and maybe pushing him to be a bigger jerk, so that you can feel justified in leaving him. It takes two to tango and I'm not willing to lay all the blame on him.
Power & independence !?! I haven't heard you ever assert these in this relationship. The first step to doing that is being honest with yourself and with him about what is acceptable and what isn't, what you want and what you don't. There's no power in hiding and pretending that it's all good out of fear of rocking the boat.
As I see it, you can take a risk in order to have a chance at the life you secretly long for or you can stay and quietly whine to everyone, while putting on a forced smile to him.
Re-read Djuna and Thursday and Avienne and everyone else's post. This is not a "let's beat on VG" thread, but basically a statement that if you're not going to change the situation, stop complaining about it. You are still so young, don't throw your life away on fear, indecision and uncertainty.
Last edited by robee70; 12-14-2010 at 06:01 PM..
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