Online dating sites: Rip off? (girlfriend, marry, man, older)

[Anu2]

Originally Posted by DCNative

I'm single, too. As for my looks, just ask moonsavvy or JeepGirl118...

Hmmm...I think you should just post a picture!

[Dancingearth]

Originally Posted by Anu2

Hmmm...I think you should just post a picture!

Me too! I did. Me, I'm just curious. I'm definitely not interested in 20+ years younger! Now tens years,maybe....

[DCNative]

Originally Posted by Anu2

Hmmm...I think you should just post a picture!

I did in the game thread, but it was a limited edition and no longer available

I am still accepting private exchanges, though... *hint hint*

[solidsquid]

Originally Posted by fiddlekitten

You guys want a laugh? I was most politely informed, after spending about 45 minutes on EHarmony's website filling out their indepth personality test, that I was regretably "unmatchable" to any of their other subscribers. After extending my "relationship-radius" by about two thousand miles and getting the same response, I took the hint.

If anyone needs me, I'll be laying out on the middle of I-95 waitin for a semi.

Don't feel bad, did the same thing to me. I gave up on singles sites - I still have some profiles out there but only glance at them once in a while. Never any messages, winks, pokes whatever they call them. Sounds sad doesn't it? That's what I get for being honest. One acquaintance said, "you're just not selling yourself right...". I don't think I should have to "sell" myself to get a date but I suppose that is how it's done.

I'd rather just not bother with it all.

[Anu2]

Originally Posted by solidsquid

Don't feel bad, did the same thing to me.

EHarmony did that to me, too, the first time I tried. For some reason, I tried again at some other point, though, and I was getting a lot of matches. I don't really get it. Again, I think EHarmony sucks for a variety of reasons.

[Dancingearth]

Originally Posted by solidsquid

Don't feel bad, did the same thing to me. I gave up on singles sites - I still have some profiles out there but only glance at them once in a while. Never any messages, winks, pokes whatever they call them. Sounds sad doesn't it? That's what I get for being honest. One acquaintance said, "you're just not selling yourself right...". I don't think I should have to "sell" myself to get a date but I suppose that is how it's done.

I'd rather just not bother with it all.

One of my friends read on of my zillon ad versions I've written (most never posted) and said it sounded like if I found someone it would be okay and it'd be okay if I didn't. ?? And the her point? So I guess you have to sound like you need someone but not desperate. If I didn't want a relationship I wouldn't put my ad out there. But yes, I have a great life and am doing what I want--just tired of doing some things alone. I am also uncomfortable saying how great I am--it really is so much in the eyes of the beholder. Some people probably think I suck. Others think I'm great. I think everyone needs to figure it out for themselves. I'm also not comfortable selling - it reminds me of job hunting and tests. I have a phobia about tests. My college is wonderful because there are no grades and almost no tests. Although there are other hoops to jump thru--have written many papers. But it gets rid of the hierarchical system (no one can judge others by grade average) and puts the focus on individual learning.

I think many people give up. I just ran into an older woman at the Farmer's Market who said this area is a vortex for men--she grew up here. But lots of wonderful women. She met someone in Oregon and they are living in CA and she misses her women friends here. I do wonder how anyone manages to get together. Being at the right time at the right second. Amazing.

[DCNative]

from all these horror stories about e-harmoney, it sounds like match.com is the better deal

[VillageLife]

I posted earlier about e-harmony,it took a long time for them to find me one,three of them were firefighters,I like firefighters but not for me. I gave up.
Match.com is ok,a lot of them without pictures,I got winks,emails, I told them I would not respond without a picture,lt is dumb winking at someone who doesn't have pictures.I am a realtor,I would send email to clients with pictures,Now it is a requirement to have pictures.
The guys that don't have pictures are hiding something,don't you think so?
I gave up on Match.com

[Dancingearth]

It would seem like people that hide their pictures might be hiding something but you just don't know. Many are uncomfortable with this medium. If they write well, that says a lot.

[ertily]

We all seem to have covered most of the angles of online dating sites and it is interesting to hear that others have had similar experiences. As for me, I have decided to put meeting someone as a secondary priority. I am more interested in a move, hence checking out this site.
You always hear or at least I do, that you meet people when you are just out enjoying your life. I think I need to get in the proper setting. I have been planning to get back on a academic campus because that is the environment best suited for me. Also going to pursue some interests more. Overall, I think just doing you own thing that puts one in contact may be the best way.