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So Im a curious individual. Im on a need to know basis, and ask a lot of questions. I dont have ill intent, I just like to know things. So I ask my bf a lot about what qualities he was attracted to in previous girlfriends, what works for him, what doesn't etc. But whenever I ask him for his "type" he automatically references a friend of his mother (married with children obviously). He says he loved her style, the way she carried herself, her confidence, and her looks of course.
Now hes 27 and Im 23. He was around this women (38) when he was in high school and beginning of college (17-21 range). I kind of wonder (with me being 4 years younger) if he is attracted to this type of women (older) not that Im not confident etc, can he honestly be attracted to me?
Can a man who is into an older women be content in a relationship with someone younger?
So Im a curious individual. Im on a need to know basis, and ask a lot of questions. I dont have ill intent, I just like to know things. So I ask my bf a lot about what qualities he was attracted to in previous girlfriends, what works for him, what doesn't etc. But whenever I ask him for his "type" he automatically references a friend of his mother (married with children obviously). He says he loved her style, the way she carried herself, her confidence, and her looks of course.
Now hes 27 and Im 23. He was around this women (38) when he was in high school and beginning of college (17-21 range). I kind of wonder (with me being 4 years younger) if he is attracted to this type of women (older) not that Im not confident etc, can he honestly be attracted to me?
Can a man who is into an older women be content in a relationship with someone younger?
The fact that he's using a specific older woman as an example of his "type" does not mean that he likes older woman necessarily. He gave you an example of a woman with the qualities he likes.
Aside from that, I think you need to change your mindset. He's with you by choice, because he wants to be with you. He can also choose to leave, as can you. Bottom line, unless you're witnessing behavior that suggests he is no longer or never really was attracted to you, I wouldn't focus on the age. If anything, focus on becoming more confident and poised and stop asking him about his type.
BTW, I know my husband prefers petite, dark-eyed, dark-haired, olive-skinned and big-breasted women. The only two criteria I fit into are the petite and the sort-of dark-haired. I'm pretty certain he's still attracted to me and loves me, no matter what physically perfect-for-him young hotties are out there.
So Im a curious individual. Im on a need to know basis, and ask a lot of questions. I dont have ill intent, I just like to know things. So I ask my bf a lot about what qualities he was attracted to in previous girlfriends, what works for him, what doesn't etc. But whenever I ask him for his "type" he automatically references a friend of his mother (married with children obviously). He says he loved her style, the way she carried herself, her confidence, and her looks of course.
Now hes 27 and Im 23. He was around this women (38) when he was in high school and beginning of college (17-21 range). I kind of wonder (with me being 4 years younger) if he is attracted to this type of women (older) not that Im not confident etc, can he honestly be attracted to me?
Can a man who is into an older women be content in a relationship with someone younger?
Your boyfriend likes a woman who is confident. A confident woman holds herself well. She looks great because she feels great. She dresses in ways that flatter her, because she knows herself so well. And if you disagree, she doesn't care. She carries herself well because of this confidence too.
Confident women are sexy, and your boyfriend knows it. You need to understand that these traits are timeless and ageless. YOU can be confident, but as we can see by your starting this thread, you have no confidence. I say you should work on that, instead of worrying about your boyfriend. Browse around and try reading a well-reviewed self help book on the topic.
I have to disagree that anyone can become confident. Sure, sometimes people evolve and gain confidence because of some great endeavor or when they age, but generally, people either are confident or they aren't. It's something innate in a person and the OP obviously doesn't have it. So your BF likes older women, confident women, etc. and makes a general remark about it. It's important enough for you to post it on an Internet board, soliciting opinions? Anyone with confidence or maturity couldn't care less about this. It seems like an inconsequential event.
I have to disagree that anyone can become confident. Sure, sometimes people evolve and gain confidence because of some great endeavor or when they age, but generally, people either are confident or they aren't. It's something innate in a person and the OP obviously doesn't have it. So your BF likes older women, confident women, etc. and makes a general remark about it. It's important enough for you to post it on an Internet board, soliciting opinions? Anyone with confidence or maturity couldn't care less about this. It seems like an inconsequential event.
I totally disagree. People absolutely can gain confidence. It takes real work, which is something most people aren't willing to do. Work, or you can wait until you are old enough to not care what people think about you. But that isn't confidence.
Valorie my gal.........I've been there...that is 23...lol Now looking back, I honestly didn't know shat.
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