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Having also been divorced, we just agreed on what to split up amongst ourselves. Ours was a "no fault" divorce so it was pretty straightforward and easily settled.
If she has moved out, I'd say that a judge should be determing what is split up (i.e., marital shared property) otherwise, if she's taking things that belong to her, it's her stuff.