Could you be in a relationship with someone you find physically unattractive? (attracted, attractiveness)
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Thanks. Everyone said pretty much what I feel. I can't date someone less attractive than myself. (So that rules out people less than a 9 ;-) lol) There's no spark there so its time to tell her, i'm probably going to loose a good friend though.
There needs to be physical attraction for the relationship, at least for me. On the other hand, sometimes this attraction develops over time when mental and emotional connection is established. Sometimes all it takes is one unexpected kiss or touch that knocks me off my feet for attraction to start and all of a sudden I start noticing a beauty in him.
Sexual attraction is not really about the body, imo. Sexual attraction is an energy that flows and doesn't need to be seeked. It is either there or it isn't. Someone might be gorgeous and you just don't feel "it". And sometimes someone is not too good looking, but their sexuality is almost touchable. You just know this person will rock you. If you don't feel sexual attraction, you should never try to be with someone sexually. It just isn't meant to be.
No and it sucks because there is a guy who I know loves me and will do anything for me (and has), whom I am just not attracted to. He asked me out and I said No even though he is an excellent candidate for a long term relationship/ husband material. He really cares for me and listens to me but I am repulsed at the thought of even kissing him (I know that sounds really mean) and can not see myself doing anything with him sexually. I have tried to make myself think of him in a romantic way, but I just can't do it. He is now in the friend zone but I know he is hoping my feelings change.
I am going to be honest, it's a struggle sometimes. Sometimes I feel guilty for wanting more, for wanting passion in my life but what can I do, settle for someone I obviously don't love and will likely resent? Is it fair to him
I'm attracted to the person, not the body. I'm not meaning this mean about my wife, but she's 5'2" and 185 lbs. But I call her my Mrs. America. I'm no Fabio myself! 5'7" and 280. But we love each other, we love holding each other, sex is great and I enjoy seeing her in her birthday suit every chance I get. So if you can't have a relationship with an unattractive lady, then I'd say that's a point in her favor.
But you ARE obviously attracted to her. I think the fact that you are attracted to the person, has resulted in you being attracted to her physically. Love does that.
Would the average person want to date someone he/she isn't attracted to? No. Do many people settle for being in a relationship with someone they're not attracted to? Hell yes!
No and it sucks because there is a guy who I know loves me and will do anything for me (and has), whom I am just not attracted to. He asked me out and I said No even though he is an excellent candidate for a long term relationship/ husband material. He really cares for me and listens to me but I am repulsed at the thought of even kissing him (I know that sounds really mean) and can not see myself doing anything with him sexually. I have tried to make myself think of him in a romantic way, but I just can't do it. He is now in the friend zone but I know he is hoping my feelings change.
I am going to be honest, it's a struggle sometimes. Sometimes I feel guilty for wanting more, for wanting passion in my life but what can I do, settle for someone I obviously don't love and will likely resent? Is it fair to him
naw, when i was younger i tried to make myself like guys who were really good guys, in every other respect, but there was no fire there. like is said earlier, i married one of em, and i knew i was making a mistake a month after the marriage, but i hung on because i felt guilty for 3 years! yikes! never again will i tell myself that i should try harder to feel something for someone that is obviously not there. don't feel bad, its normal, and at least you have a friend for life! those don't come and go!
No and it sucks because there is a guy who I know loves me and will do anything for me (and has), whom I am just not attracted to. He asked me out and I said No even though he is an excellent candidate for a long term relationship/ husband material. He really cares for me and listens to me but I am repulsed at the thought of even kissing him (I know that sounds really mean) and can not see myself doing anything with him sexually. I have tried to make myself think of him in a romantic way, but I just can't do it. He is now in the friend zone but I know he is hoping my feelings change.
I am going to be honest, it's a struggle sometimes. Sometimes I feel guilty for wanting more, for wanting passion in my life but what can I do, settle for someone I obviously don't love and will likely resent? Is it fair to him
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When you define what you're attracted to in physical terms ...what you're attracted to and what you'll accept, are you open to the same criticism from someone analyzing you?
Are you open to the fact that the only thing that endures is your intellect.
Are you comfortable selecting someone physically attractive with no intellect and spending the rest of your life with an empty mind, and a body that is not as appealing today as it was 20 years ago? (or do you think you're so sharp as to "trade up every few years").
That would only give me a good reason to cheat. Physical attraction is #1 seeking for a relationship. She has to be cute in the face.
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