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Old 12-29-2010, 08:14 AM
 
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Neither jealous nor distrustful. Poisonous snakes do not always bite and even when biting do not always inject poison. My looks have allowed me to skate as well. Not always, so I know when and where it happens. I have one foot in many doors.

Developed personalities take work.

If your looks have allowed you to skate as you say, then, you must dislike yourself because you are one of the "beautiful people". Also, people with "developed personalities" learn not to generalize or judge based on outward appearances. Maybe your insecurity is that people might actually see through all the BS.
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Old 12-29-2010, 09:46 AM
 
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... Also, people with "developed personalities" learn not to generalize or judge based on outward appearances. ...
I disagree. Being able to work with generalizations for what they are is far more developed than pretending they do not teach you anything. Once again judging does not come into it. For instance on the poisonous snake. You do not judge it as good or bad for being what it is. You judge it for whether it bit you.

To generalize is a survival mechanism. With out being able to assign things to groups it is hard to know how to deal with them. Should you trust all snakes? Now the danger comes in when your generalizations cause you to blindly assume all traits of a group are unvarying and locked. As I wrote repeatedly in the previous posts I do not think that way.

As for people seeing through my BS? My gosh I hope so. That would indicate depth. The problem I more routinely encounter is people like yourself that are unable to comprehend outside their world view. If they have not experienced something, imagination lacks.

I have not gone into my insecurities since I have been responding to your posts. I had legion of them growing up. Most have felled by the wayside with the years. I guess the biggest I have now is worry about dying and health. If you live long enough you eventually realize how minimal most of the rest are.

Good fortune.
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Old 12-29-2010, 10:12 AM
 
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Most of the insecurities I had growing up revolved more around how I thought or wanted others to perceive me.

I think I've overcome many of these as I've gotten older and today struggle with insecurities of how I perceive myself; Am I doing what I need to do for my children?, Have I accomplished what I wanted to or realized my potential? and Do I still have enough time left to see & do those things I wanted to?

I guess they all revolve around aging and with that of course comes what I see when I look at myself in the mirror.

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Old 12-29-2010, 12:43 PM
 
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Hello everyone--

If you could change something about yourself what would it be? Most people would say it's something about how they look be it weight or a feature. For me I like the way I look, but forever my insecurity was attitude. I was once painfully shy. Just the thought of talking to a woman put a crippling fear in me. As time went on I adjusted and became arrogant. Then a humbling experience brought me back down to where I needed to be. Now I like where I am, how I feel, how I look and act. how about you?

Sorry to say I dont have any insecurities...
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Old 12-29-2010, 12:46 PM
 
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Most of the insecurities I had growing up revolved more around how I thought or wanted others to perceive me.

I think I've overcome many of these as I've gotten older and today struggle with insecurities of how I perceive myself; Am I doing what I need to do for my children?, Have I accomplished what I wanted to or realized my potential? and Do I still have enough time left to see & do those things I wanted to?

I guess they all revolve around aging and with that of course comes what I see when I look at myself in the mirror.
Robee, I was once told, "you can't ride a horse without getting on it first." So whatever it is you've always wanted to do, if you have the means to do it, what's stopping you? Is it fear? If it's fear, say, "********* fear" and just do it.
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