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Originally Posted by alphamale
Abortion, poverty, child abuse, prostitution, STD's, AIDS.
Just to name a few.
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im not sure how marriage will prevent poverty and child abuse, protitution is the oldes profession on the books.
some married people also dont want any children so it wont nessicarily prevent abortion...
again im all for waiting if thats what feels right to you.
and im ABSOLUTLY for waiting in relationship...i personally dont like casual sex...
BUT thats just for me personally...
its not for religious reasons, im pagan and the pagan culture doesnt have the stigma surrounding sex that other religoins have, its a normal natural thing.
but my mind, and heart and even body (i simply cannot get turned on if i dont trust the person im with and it takes time to build trust) simply cannot grasp the concept of sharing an intimate part of myself with someone i dont know well...
so no, i dont think 100% of the "wait a while" movment is based on religious dogma.
and i also dont think marriage shoudl be all about the religious dogma either...
mabe that however is based more on todays common veiws of marriage as somply a contract to bind 2 people into behaving themselves or money will be involved.
marriage should be about love, trust and WANTING to spend the rest of your life with that one person...
it shouldnt be about the benefits (like life insurance or "i get 1/2 of everythign if we devorse...)
*sigh*
i know many
none religious people who are very happily married!
i know many people who waited to have sex untill after handfasitng/marriage and they are completly happy...
and i know others who have a "safe" promiscuous lifestyle (bc and condoms, regular std testing not sleeping with random strangers) and are also perfectly happy...
and i know many like myself who dont feel its nessicary to wait till marriage, but still prefer to wait in the relationship untill they are more comfortable, know eachother better and are not just in it for a quick trist, and those people are perfectly happy too...
what works for one, doesnt nessicarily work fro another...
and its NOT all about religion.
i dont feel marriage solves everything, many married men are pedofiles, and abuse children, many married women abuse their kids too...
many loving married families live in poverty
and many married folks im sure frequent prostitutes (infact i read somewhere that a prostitutes largest clientel were married men with families at home...)
many married couples have abortions for whatever reason, or place children for adoption...
the only thing both parties saving it for marriage realy ensures is a must smaller change of bringing std's into the relationship...and that only applies if both parties also stay true to one another and havent been exposed to std's otherwise.
as i said, i think waiting (marriage or not) is wonderfull for those who want that...
but i also dont thing anyone on either side of the argument should be bashing the other side based on the "idea" that marriage, and waiting to have sex untill married, will solve all the worlds problems.