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Just rambling but i find myself suddenly in my mid 40's with an overwhelmingly amount of attention from young men. I began dating online this past year after 5 years of not dating after divorce and now its like the bees have all caught scent of this honey. I want something meaningful and longterm but can't help but enjoy the attention of all these young men. What do they want and why do I crave their attention. I mean, men/boys in their 20's and 30's!! Its flattering but I know its not what is good for me and not what will lead me in the direction I want to go.
It's because older women are easy and appreciative. If you just want sex have fun. If you are looking for more you will be sadly disappointed.
Just rambling but i find myself suddenly in my mid 40's with an overwhelmingly amount of attention from young men. I began dating online this past year after 5 years of not dating after divorce and now its like the bees have all caught scent of this honey. I want something meaningful and longterm but can't help but enjoy the attention of all these young men. What do they want and why do I crave their attention. I mean, men/boys in their 20's and 30's!! Its flattering but I know its not what is good for me and not what will lead me in the direction I want to go.
I would be very flattered if I was getting that kind of attention, even though I'm married and not even looking. So I say enjoy it and do with it what you want, even if it's nothing more than getting an ego boost.
It happens to me a lot too - in fact I think it happens to almost all 40+ women. At first glance it's flattering. But if you think about it, most men have no problem with taking a big step down in personal standards in pursuit of casual sex.
If you want to view things realistically, compare the attractiveness of the age-appropriate men who approach you to those younger men who hit on you. If the younger men are "high quality" (very attractive, nice personality, career-minded etc) and the the ones your own age are not, you know those younger guys view you as a low enough step down that you're a good mark for an easy lay.
I point this out because it's important to keep reality in the forefront of your mind; otherwise it will come back to bite you in the butt when you start trying to find someone to seriously date. When a woman doesn't see the truth about the younger male/older female sexual dynamic, she falls into the trap of rejecting average age-appropriate suitors because she thinks she can do better than those "low quality" men. The truth is, she can't. The 45 year old version of her favorite 28 year old boy toy is out of her league.
Just rambling but i find myself suddenly in my mid 40's with an overwhelmingly amount of attention from young men. I began dating online this past year after 5 years of not dating after divorce and now its like the bees have all caught scent of this honey. I want something meaningful and longterm but can't help but enjoy the attention of all these young men. What do they want and why do I crave their attention. I mean, men/boys in their 20's and 30's!! Its flattering but I know its not what is good for me and not what will lead me in the direction I want to go.
I think it's completey understandable that you enjoy the attention from younger men, I would be flattered too.
It happens to me a lot too - in fact I think it happens to almost all 40+ women. At first glance it's flattering. But if you think about it, most men have no problem with taking a big step down in personal standards in pursuit of casual sex.
If you want to view things realistically, compare the attractiveness of the age-appropriate men who approach you to those younger men who hit on you. If the younger men are "high quality" (very attractive, nice personality, career-minded etc) and the the ones your own age are not, you know those younger guys view you as a low enough step down that you're a good mark for an easy lay.
I point this out because it's important to keep reality in the forefront of your mind; otherwise it will come back to bite you in the butt when you start trying to find someone to seriously date. When a woman doesn't see the truth about the younger male/older female sexual dynamic, she falls into the trap of rejecting average age-appropriate suitors because she thinks she can do better than those "low quality" men. The truth is, she can't. The 45 year old version of her favorite 28 year old boy toy is out of her league.
^^^^I highly doubt becoming "invisible" will EVER happen to this one!^^
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