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Hopefully, this doesn't jinx things, but I am honestly not sure what is the best thing to do.....
Known her about 6 months, but only started to really get to know her this month....she recently left her husband after 23 years of marriage. He treated her like garbage, particulary in the end. We've hit it off great, 2 great dates with a feeling of mutual like, but she's skiddish though. I talked about NYE with her last week on a date and she said she was planning to go to this party, but alone. I, unfortunately, don't have any plans, at least with someone (I just moved to my area in Feb of this soon to be done year).
I talked to her again this AM. While we may hang out 12/30 (again may, she has her son, though), she asked me what I was doing for 12/31 again. I said nothing, in a way (there is somewhere I can go, but I'd much rather do something with someone I know). She talked about the party (not private) again, said that she's going to go with a group on friends and it didn't seem like a girls nite out either...
Should I just honestly say, listen can I come and hang out with you? I won't do anything that may seem like a date, unless invited to. I think she said alone the 1st time, since she didn't want to go on a date per se that night, but at the same time, here is, if nothing else, a valued friend, who I would really want to hang around with for the last night of the year....as opposed to being by myself (still trying to find someone to hang with though at this point), only since I don't want to be, maybe, too agressive.....
if this works out with her, even if it's 2 or 3 months for now, in a BF/GF relationship, I'd be on cloud 9, but if I ask her if I could join her at this dance, would I chase her away?
Of course, I could just ask her where it is and show up on my own, without telling her, but that could be just as awkward......
interested in hearing from a woman's point of view in an answer.....
If you just started seeing her romantically, I wouldn't suggest inviting yourself. That's just my opinion. I have been there before when you just started seeing someone before New Year's, a birthday, Valentine's day, whatever.
stop thinking about it so much. come up with a back up plan for new year's -- then tell her... listen i'd like to spend new year's eve with you, but if it's a girl's night out then i have these other plans.
it's weird that she hasn't asked you... or maybe she has mentioned the other plans to hint to you that maybe you should talk about your plans and then u guys can figure out some way to hang out together
conclusion: boys are stupid. girls are stupid. we can't read minds. just be yourself and do what you want. if it doesn't work out, it just friggin wasnt meant to be. and if it is meant to be, then nothing can stop it from working out like it should.
Don't invite yourself and don't under any circumstances just show up to the gathering. If she wants your company she'll ask you. 23 years is a long time to be married and she's obviously got a lot to sort out.
Don't invite yourself and don't under any circumstances just show up to the gathering. If she wants your company she'll ask you. 23 years is a long time to be married and she's obviously got a lot to sort out.
Don't ask and don't invite yourself. Holiday parties are too much pressure. They are too symbolic of relationships. If she feels pressure for you to go, then she will want to put the breaks on you.
don't invite yourself and don't under any circumstances just show up to the gathering. If she wants your company she'll ask you. 23 years is a long time to be married and she's obviously got a lot to sort out.
Yea just wait AFter the new years before trying to gauge a possible relationship. She needs time to adjust and a holiday party is too much pressure too early. Just tell her you have plans for that time and youll see/talk to her after.
It's way too new. She was married a lifetime and just got divorced, she does need breathing room. I'm sure she's flattered by the friendship she had made in you but trust me, she is a Mom, she is recently divorced and she does need some alone time, some time with her friends and some time to spread her wings.
Be patient, if this is meant to be to turn into something more, you will have a ton of New Years to celebrate. Good luck.
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Good luck.
