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I'm 37 and you probably will find me weird, but I assure you I'm a completely normal guy...except when it comes to relationships. To put it straight, I've never had a girlfriend in my life, I've never had a first kiss as well (call girls usually don't accept this kind of kiss). I've held hands with a girl when I was 21 but that was about it.
I've always been pretty confident in most areas of my life, I went to university, I work as an engineer, I've got my own house, my own car and I'm quite well travelled. I've always loved socialising, I used to hit the club every weekend from when I was 15 on. I love going out with friends for dinner, I obviously have no family responsabilities so I can come and go as I please. I surely have no problem talking to strangers. And that includes women, however not with the goal of trying 'to get something with her'.
Relationships have always seemed too troublesome and complicated for me. I've never asked a woman out, that would be the ultimate embarrassment for me, I'd rather walk through a mine field than do that. I'm quite good looking, at least I try to stay in shape.
In my early 20s, when all my male friends were getting laid at the speed of light, I was either studying or going out and watch them get girls to their cars at the end of the night while I went home alone. So, after I finished university, I made a promise to myself that I would never have anything with women, I would focus on my career and buy the things I've always wanted (my family is quite wealthy but I'm not a lazy bugger, I've paid everything I have).
When I reached 30 and was still a virgin, I decided to lose my virginity. I couldn't obviously lose it with a regular relationships, so I started using call girls every now and then. They do the thing, don't complain and might be cheaper on the long run. There's no drama and no text messages the next day.
Well, the thing is I think there's a woman interested in me. She was a friend of a friend, that's how I met her. She's 34 and divorced but things are fine between them it seems. I've noticed how I get all her attention when we're together with friends, she tries to touch me for any reason. The other day she even started giving me a back rub because 'you look like you need one'.
I don't know what to do. I don't want to break my pledge because I know I'd be an horrible boyfriend. I'm just not used to having someone interested in me, women usually only see me as a potential good friend but that's it. I'm not used to be physically touched in a non-sexual way. I must admit I feel a certain 'thing' in my chest when I'm with her but I don't know if a guy like me can be with someone. I'm the guy who can be a good friend, a good son and a crazy funny uncle, but relationships with women...
I'm just scared of regretting it.
Sorry, I know this is a bit long but I can't speak with anyone about personal things.
First of all, you would not be a horrible boyfriend simply because you have no experience in the matter. It does not take experience to care about somebody and treat them well.
Secondly, being that she is a divorced 34 year young woman, she does not love you, and she does not like you. Her giving you a backrub is just subtle attempts to seduce you little by little to make you fall for her with the end result being marriage, and her possibly popping out more kids.
She sees that you are a financially responsible man (and I'm sure somebody told her about you) who is single with no kids and this is the ONLY reason why you are getting her attention.
It has nothing to do with you as a person, its more of she sees that she can get something out of you.
I would not bother with her, but if you do, I would at least ask why she is divorced. She could have been caught cheating, and if that's the case, no use getting involved with a cheater.
First of all, you would not be a horrible boyfriend simply because you have no experience in the matter. It does not take experience to care about somebody and treat them well.
Secondly, being that she is a divorced 34 year young woman, she does not love you, and she does not like you. Her giving you a backrub is just subtle attempts to seduce you little by little to make you fall for her with the end result being marriage, and her possibly popping out more kids.
She sees that you are a financially responsible man (and I'm sure somebody told her about you) who is single with no kids and this is the ONLY reason why you are getting her attention.
It has nothing to do with you as a person, its more of she sees that she can get something out of you.
I would not bother with her, but if you do, I would at least ask why she is divorced. She could have been caught cheating, and if that's the case, no use getting involved with a cheater.
Wow, I've seen some bitter males on here but this one takes the cake. I am so sorry that your life has been such a disappointment to you--it must be a terrible burden.
First of all, you would not be a horrible boyfriend simply because you have no experience in the matter. It does not take experience to care about somebody and treat them well.
Secondly, being that she is a divorced 34 year young woman, she does not love you, and she does not like you. Her giving you a backrub is just subtle attempts to seduce you little by little to make you fall for her with the end result being marriage, and her possibly popping out more kids.
She sees that you are a financially responsible man (and I'm sure somebody told her about you) who is single with no kids and this is the ONLY reason why you are getting her attention.
It has nothing to do with you as a person, its more of she sees that she can get something out of you.
I would not bother with her, but if you do, I would at least ask why she is divorced. She could have been caught cheating, and if that's the case, no use getting involved with a cheater.
I'm confused. Has this woman this man speaks of, told you all of this that you're saying, herself?
^^^ Hay, I'm just saving his time and cutting through the BS.
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I am so sorry that your life has been such a disappointment to you--it must be a terrible burden.
